Bipolar Support Group

Hi my husband and I have been married for almost 13 years in May 2012 well I had no idea that my husband had bipolar until about 2 years ago. We have been separtated 4 times and the first time was in DEC the worst one but, he came home on Friday Night and said he doesnt love me any more (my daughter was about 7 years old) and he wanted a divorce I was shocked and didnt know why so he left us and then he was gone for about 3 weeks and wanted to come back home so i let him come back home. Before all of this happpened he got in trouble for road rage and meet a lady from anger man in Oct and than he left me in Dec he said he was sorry and loved me and he didnt know what got into him so i forgave him and his cheating on me.

the 2nd time was he also left me for another woman and the 3rd one was for the lady across the street from were we lived the 4th time i moved out because of the lady across the street. We (daughter) moved out and got are own place and I have been trying to talk to him about working out are marriage but he says he likes to be single and he wants to stay this way for 6 mon or so and not go see a doctor for help (he is on meds for PTS)

2 weeks ago he said he wanted us to move back in and then 5 min later he said no he is not sure what he wants to do i feel that i am on hold and just waiting for him to figure it out and i am sad. I really dont know what to think i am not sure if he even loves me please if any one has a thought please let me know

Welcome to the group, brokenhrt. You'll find lots of support, information and encouragement here. Please feel free to PM me or any other group leader.

You might also want to join the bipolar spouses group. You'll find lots of people in your situation there.

http://www.mdjunction.com/bipolar-spouses

It seems that your husband has a pattern of leaving you for other women and you have a pattern of taking him back. You deserve more than that.

If he does come back this time, what's to stop him from taking off again the next time he wants to be single? Do you want to live this way for the rest of your life?

No I dont and I dont want my daughter to think this is normal, My daughter likes being away from him and just seeing her dad every other weekend, but I miss him I know that is crazy cause he was very mental abuseive and he would knock me down and put his arms in the air like he was going to hit me. and every thing was my fault no matter what it was I am going to co-depencey groups i was a strong person 12 years ago but now i am scared of every thing I am trying to get better for my self and my daughter but It is a long road thank you for your thoughts

Is he on medecine? Does he see a doctor or a therapist at all? If he is not stable he will probably continue to have these heartbreaking rollercoasters. If it were me, and were even thinking about taking him back, I would insist he work on his mood stability first.

That said, bipolar is never an excuse to let someone treat you horribly. As Catbaloo said, you deserve better than that.

Welcome to the group, maybe check out the family group. I hope you find a peaceful resolution.

Mania is a strange, dangerous, and hurtful thing. Many significant others of bipolar people that aren't treated act this way. Until he seeks the treatment, therapy and medications, he will continue this. I would suggest before you let him back, he get the therapy he needs to get stable. You shouldn't put you life on hold for someone and wait. You need your own life too. You still are a strong person. You can do this. You can get back to where you were. He really needs to get medical treatment though to change. I hope that he does do this whether you stay together or not. He has to help himself though and realize that he does need the help. I'm very sorry that you are struggling so much. We care very much about your happiness.

Thank you so much for your thoughts, he is a very angey man and every thing is my fault. And he acts like a wounderful person when he is aroung people they dont even know what kind of person he is unless they live with him like my daughter and I. He is a great person some times but not very much.

He had a break down about 6 mon ago he wanted to be admitted to the hospital but are insurance would not cover the expense so I took him to the doctors and he give him meds for PTS and his anger got better (he still gets angey but not as bad) but he just see's a woman and he forgets all about me and my daughter, he spends money like its going out of style (for himself) and he not giving us very much money to live on (I work full time) I dont make much money so its hard when my daughter wants or needs things

thanks for your help !!

He went to see a therapist only 1 time and then he stoped his mother and both sisters have problems like this one sister goes to a therapist and the others (his mom and other sister does not). I am trying to understand bipolar so i have been doing research on this and wanting to know why hypersexural is so strong were you cant control it I am having a hard time understanding this please help (why he has to cheat)

When hypersexual you have strong sexual urges constantly. Add that to the thrill seeking behavior of mania and you get infidelity.

I would like to add that not all bipolar people cheat, even when manic or hypersexual.

YorkietLove...

Thank you for that, I had no idea about this until 1 year ago and I have been with my husband for 13 years, One time he told me that he didnt even want to do it but he did I could not understand that cause if i didnt want to I would not do it so I am trying to understand that thank you

I have mania and depression at the same time when I have an episode. It seems like your husband may have this too. It can be very scary and confusing. I didn't know I had bipolar until a year ago. My boyfriend knew that I had problems and stuck by me even though I have done some terrible things to him. He came at me in the wrong way every time he wanted me to get help. Finally, he let me know how much he cared about me, and told me he wanted me to get help for myself. He still doesn't understand my condition as much, but he has taken it upon himself to learn more about me. He is very supportive now, and helps me through all of the negative times. Just knowing that he cares really does help me.

Finding out that I had bipolar was scared the crap out of me, but I know now why I've done the awful things that I have done. I put things on him that were not his fault. I hope that your husband gets the help that he needs.

Hypersexuality gives me urges to do things that I wouldn't normally do. I would never cheat though..