Bipolar Support Group

I have tried so hard to warn my new boy friend that this is not going to be a smooth ride with me. He is so wrapped up with me that I don't know what he really see's.

I have stayed single for 2 years and just had non attached sex and no emotional anything for a reason but I never thought that I would meet someone I relate to so well but it did happen and all I can think about when my brain whats to do the boy friend trip is "I'm going to hurt him in some way" and then I start thinking about how "he doesn't have time for me" he has so much already on his plate and I am not just saying that, he is in volved with a lot of land right indigones stuff inportant stuff, he works at the local high school and is very involved with helping the young teenages of the community, he has 2 children and lives with his mother to assist her, , and then he wants to add me to the list.

I just know that I will F*** up some way...

Any way I just was wondering if anyone has had any success with having a person in their life with success and how????????

I've been married for 22 years, so I guess I qualify as someone who has some success with having someone in their lives.

I'm no expert on relationships, but what has worked for my husband and I is an understanding that sometimes I just need to be by myself. When I am in what I call my "black moods", I have to take myself away from people so I won't snap at them or say something hateful. That includes my husband.

I do my very best not to do it, but if I do snap at him I make sure that I apologize as soon as I can. An apology doesn't undo what I said, but it does make us both feel better.

In my opinion, the best thing we can do for a relationship is to work as hard as we can for stability. For me, that means seeing my pdoc regularly and taking my meds every day. The meds keep me stable and that's a big improvement over the wild mood swings I used to experience. I find that the more stable I am, the more stable my relationship with my husband is.

Hope this helps.

Yes sorry have so much going on....

I've had a boyfriend on and off for 12 years. We get along good most of the time. He treats me like anyone else which is good even though I get sensitive sometimes. We don't talk about the bipolar though. He just isn't interested in it. Oh well. You can have a relationship. Stay on your medications and have lots of communication. There will always be bumps in the road, but there are in any relationship. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do. Talk to him about how you feel and see what he says.

My sister probably has some sort of mood disorder and likely a little anxiety too. (Man, she'd kill me if she knew I'm saying this...) For a long time she worried that she was going to screw things up with her boyfriend, or that he'd leave her, and even on good days she'd call me crying and saying she was so scared.

I'd listen to her and soothe her, but I knew that the only thing that would help was that time would pass and she wouldn't screw up and he wouldn't leave.

Time passed. She was always careful to communicate with him and respect him and make sure he respected her too. She didn't screw up and he didn't leave. She's very happy now. I think that believing in herself and taking things slowly and building up the trust over time was what worked for her.

Trust and respect are the keys to a healthy relationship. If you can completely trust each other and you really respect each other, you can make it.

Just my opinion.

I agree with the last post* trust & respect for sure.. I tried so hard to warn my now husband.. he heard me but didn't listen well.. warned him many times.. he choose for the first 18 months to see what he wanted to.. I had to help out my step sister while her husband was over seas.. so, he got a wake up call down the road.. It hasn't been easy at first & at times still but we've made it through* He had no choice but to open his eyes.. things worked because we did have that trust, respect and our love grew deeper from the rocky start..