Bipolar Support Group

I'm Bipolar and my problem is flipping out with anger or arguing a lot with my boyfriend. It started when I was on antidepressents cuz that makes bipolar kick in sometimes. before i was on them, things were great between me and him. he treated me so good and we were happy. then i started flipping out and throwing things and yelling and kicking and it put him through a lot. now im going outpatient and its helping a little bit so i've been nicer to him but hes still being mean and giving me an attitude. i ruined it forever it feels like but im so in love with this guy and really attached to him. hes a really good guy but now i feel hopeless. any advice please? i don't know what to do i've been getting really depressed about it and recently i cut myself (which i let outpatient know about right away) and i don't want to cut again.

I feel your pain, my wife of 10 years divorced me because of my anger and instability, combine with the memories of years of emotional abuse. i miss her every minute aand know i will never find some one like her.

my dvice, CALM down, give him space, write him a long letter and MAIL it, then wait.

thanks. the problem is that i live with him so its hard to give him space. i will do anything to fix this relationship but i'm afraid i might wind up inpatient because i'm almost done with outpatient and i'm still flipping out because he's not nice to me and doesn't want to do stuff with me anymore. and when im depressed or angry its worse if i'm alone, especially the depression. but i will try that, i'm actually doing that now i went to the other room but i feel like i'll never have my old boyfriend back. to make it worse, my best friends just got engaged and they are all happy and kissy around me all the time and i miss when my relationship was happy like that

just keep trying

i just talked to him and he said the reason he treats me like that is because he's in a bad mood and not because im being emotionally abusive, but thats even worse because if he is going to give me an attitude regardless of if i'm being nice i cant be with him. i cant handle all this i feel completely hopeless

Have you talked to your pdoc about your rage? I was so mean to my husband when I was mixed or manic I am constantly surprised he didn't leave me and my mood stabilizer really evened out the rage.

Best wishes for healing in your relationship and to not feel so angry as one thing they may never understand is it is just as unpleasant for us to feel that way as it is for them to be on the receiving end.

You can give the two of you some space by going out for the day. Go shopping, go for a long drive. Go to some of your favorite places in town, go to a movie you've been wanting to see, something. Just get away for a few hours. Don't make a big thing of it, just say you're going out for a while and will be back later. It will give you a chance to enjoy doing things you like to do and help you feel a little better getting away from his bad mood for a while.

Everyone gets in bad moods now and then. We just have to roll with it. If it's just that, then he'll get over it and things will get back to the way they were. I'm sorry, though, that it's right now while you are feeling fragile. I hope you can keep that in mind. The important thing is that you get stabilized as quickly as possible so you do not have rages, but are leveled out and can enjoy life. That might mean inpatient. I don't know. I think writing a letter is a good idea. It's a way of communicating that doesn't require the other person to be actively involved and so is less stressful all around, yet gets the message through. Try to stay hopeful. Once the medications get figured out, you will feel better and that will help your relationship.

thanks for the advice. i went out today with my friend for a little while and gave her a ride to work and hung out a little bit. its still hard to be hopeful because i've been through every mood stabilizer and I'm at the right dosage of lithium but i'm still angry. i also take geodon for the bipolar and it helps a little but not enough. i'm starting to feel afraid that inpatient might be what i have to do. i used to be on lamictal and it helped me so much i felt normal for once. but then i got a rash and since it could have been the side effect from the meds they had to take me off of it because it is too risky. today has been hard though, even going out with my friend and its so nice outside and i live up north but none of it made me feel better. i just feel empty and depressed.