Gypsy
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Hi, Junior, I relate to what is going on, being bipolar, and all. I have been working on the same behavior with my boyfriend. I just did this with him this week. When, I am cycling, I tend to push people away. It's the beginning of wanting to isolate. I am feeling out of control, so, I want to control others. I have blamed it on my boyfriend, and accused him of doing something to cause me to feel that way. I tried to explain it to him, the other day, and he got his feelings hurt. When, I am in mixed mania, I get really aggitated, and sensitive. Any intimacy is overwhelming for me. I don't anyone near me. Then, I feel bad. I feel powerless over it. I am realizing for myself that meds, and therapy are only part of the solution. I have to learn how to change my behavior. It's behavior that, I have been doing for a long time, so, it will take time to learn to react differently. I don't think you are doing anything to cause your wife's behavior. It's the illness. It can be hurtful. It's not personal. Can you tell her how you are feeling? Maybe set some boundaries with her on how you want to be treated? You shouldn't have to be afraid of doing something to make her mad. That's not good for you. I hope things get better. Maybe she needs to talk about this with her pdoc, or therapist. That's what, I do. I bring all my symptoms to them, and find ways to manage them. I also have been taking my issues to my therapist so, i don't take them out on my boyfriend. God bless, Gypsy God Bless,Gypsy |
