Bipolar Support Group

Um. As usual, I am clueless as to what happened here and how it got to where it is... I'm a little angry but I guess I'll go vent in Opinions.

No offense, Uber, but I disagree with you that 'some' are getting off topic. Zinnia opened this up to adults discussing yes issues of sex/BP/etc. Nothing I have read is off topic or off limits. What Christina said is valid and does have to do with her BP. You say you are not judging. Then let the leaders decide what is off topic and what is not. You had good points about cheating. I have done it and it is the worst thing I can think of that a wife can do to her man. It sucks. I sucked for doing it. But, I am not only a believer in Christ, I am a human full of flaws and temptations. If we cannot speak freely on here, where can we? I cannot talk to anyone (it seems everyone found out through a 'friend' of mine- but that is another topic). I told my husband and dealt with the consequences. BUT that does not make me immune or him for that matter of screwing up again. I don't ever EVER want to, but I am also scared and this is the only place I can be honest, besides my doc's office. Sorry to rant. I am "restless" feeling, along with a little down tonight and my hubby and kids are gone for the evening. Don't you guys hate the combination of that a'restlessness' (whatever it is) and almost heading into depression?

I said I don't care what you want to talk about. I'm making sure I don't have to read it. Please, enjoy yourselves.

uber

Maybe some are feeling triggered (just found out what that meant- I am new to all this). I guess if you are and know you are triggered by certain things, you should not open that thread. I know there are certain ones I don't open.

i know in my experince i had to be the agressor women are not taught to be like that . anyhow my bf would usually go along with it . at times though he was tired and feel asleep but i always told him if he did not want to then he could just say that . I think he felt better when i intiated things first. For those of you that are not familar with my situation i am the gf of some that has bipolar . he meds did play apart in him not wanting to be intimate all the time and i respected that . In those time we did just cuddle and held hands .

there is more to intimacy then just the sexuaual act .

Post edited by: grafxbydiane, at: 01/23/2009 17:42

Uber, if you are still reading this thread, and i assume you're not given what you said, i respectfully disagree and think the posts have been spot on.

off topic would be talking about something not even remotely related. everything everyone has said is related to the topic. there have been some very heartfelt posts and i'm sure it has been difficult for many to unburden that way.

if i'm wrong, i apologize, but you sound a little bit more than angry. just my way of doing things, but if i see a thread that might REMOTELY trigger me i stay away from it.

whatever it is that is really bothering you i hope you resolve it soon.

Let's clear the air a little bit!

I think this thread was intended as mainly a space to speak about medication issues, yes, however, it was also created (from what I get from the original message) as an open, safe place for people to open up about sex in general. There's a kind of shortened copy of the first post at the end of this, for those of you who would like to reread the direction intended.

Let's try to keep this a peaceful, safe place to open up.

"after some recent postings about sexuality that were rude and offensive to many, i got a lot of pm's from members who were frustrated because this is an issue they would like to discuss in a real way, but now they're scared to start a thread because they feel taunted and made fun of by the previous threads which treated the subject so flippantly.

for many of us, our disorder causes sexual problems or issues, in and of itself. for most, however, those problems are caused as side effects of the many medications we take. the side effects range from inability to have an orgasm to complete lack of sexual desire or drive. these effects frustrate us and they frustrate our partners.

...KNOW THIS: this isn't a joke to be treated like kindergarten potty talk. if there are any posts of that nature, myself or one of the other group leaders will delete the post and report that member to roy.

...anything goes here, with the caveat mentioned above."

Good thread Zinnia! Uber, you are the only one I see as trying to take this subject off topic. There is noting written in this thread that is elicit or appears to be "dirty" (yes I have read the entire thread). These are very real problems, one of the things that I have learned with bipolar is that support and healing is necessary for the whole person, every aspect of our lives (yes! our lives, those with bipolar and those of us that love them). This helps all of us to function as a whole person. Keep up the good work all.

Christina your post was on target and in keeping with the intention of the author to have a place to share these issues. The author may correct me if I am wrong.

As far as the sex issue...I am ambivalent about sex, I go through spells where I am interested a lot...and then, go through spells where I would rather read a book. I lived for years, thinking it was my duty, then, ephipany!!! I only have sex when it is my choice and i feel like it...that is a wonderful thing for me. Remember folks, I am the Gloria Steinheim generation. It just took until I was in my 40's to realize I was the one to choose when and where...and if I wanted to at all.

Uhh...is this thread still going? Has it moved on elsewhere? I'd sure love to talk to people who understand!