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JustJulie62  Posts: 925
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It could be bipolar related - or he is just a really confused guy. Many of us tend to push others away - I think i do it because I do not want to be a burden on anyone, or for anyone to feel pity for me. Our ego's get in the way too often. His childhood could play a part as well - if he was not cared for properly he might have learned to self soothe without anyone...and that's a hard habit to break. He might indeed still love you, but might feel he is undeserving of your love and/or wants to protect you from his moods. If you offered him support and encouragement in the past, maybe if you pursue another relationship with him you can honestly say "I have read up and sought out more information on BP, and perhaps in the past I didn't understand how it effected you. I want to, and I understand that when you are depressed it has nothing to do with me, although I know I made myself feel it was. Perhaps we could go to counseling together, so WE can learn together, on how to make this relationship work. I love, despite BP or anything else"...worth a shot, BUT Only you can make this decision to try again. Best to you.... "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars" - Oscar Wilde |
