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shawn62 Posts: 250
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I’m not sure if this has anything to do with my depression or not, but I have been very emotional lately. I’m a 49 year old man and not usually like that. In the past I thought I was just the opposite. I thought there was something wrong with me because I never cried. But lately I cry at the drop of a hat. I can’t even watch tv because I’m afraid I will embarrass myself. Could this have anything to do with my depression? Has anyone else had a problem like this I would appreciate any help with this. Shawn
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bfly Posts: 4069
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Not a doc, but I'd say from my own experience...absolutely! I get very weepy and emotional when I'm depressed... feels like the world is ending- or that it would be nice if it did (not to put those symptoms on you or anything)...I cry at commercials, at tv shows, movies, when I see a little child playing and laughing, I'm just more sensative to the "emotional stimuli", if you will, I think it's perfectly normal, while it's also gotta be perfectly annoying to a 49 yr old male (damn stereotypes about how you guys can show emotion!)... maybe writing might help you get some of your emotions out so they won't seem low out of control and powerless to you. Best wishes. Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Kahlil Gibran
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” Leo F. Buscaglia
"Always fall in with what you're asked to accept. Take what is given, and make it over your way. My aim in life has always been to hold my own with whatever's going. Not against: with."
Robert Frost
"God doesn't give us more than we can handle, I just think He overestimates my strength!" lol- me
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shawn62 Posts: 250
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This may sound funny but I was watching the movie Astro the one about the boy robot and when he died I started to cry in front of my kids I had to leave the room. I have been checking into things more and found you’re correct it could be many things. I just need to find out what is causing me to be like this. Thank you for your help. Shawn Shawn |
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bfly Posts: 4069
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Avoid alcohol (again, everytime I say this I have to inform everyone that I'm a hypocrite because I drink and use all the time)- but I also know it makes the depression a hell of a lot worse- and who really needs that???? But it's so what I want to turn to when I am depressed! You may just have to ride this one out... it always passes (I find)... but may take a while. Cope the best you can, exercise, watch comedies, avoid all those tempting sad songs... have a desire to want that positive light back! Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Kahlil Gibran
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” Leo F. Buscaglia
"Always fall in with what you're asked to accept. Take what is given, and make it over your way. My aim in life has always been to hold my own with whatever's going. Not against: with."
Robert Frost
"God doesn't give us more than we can handle, I just think He overestimates my strength!" lol- me
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sarahtroy Posts: 12558
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Hi shawn, I have a lot of depression, but not the crying kind. With one exception. Once during my divorce, when I also was unable to work (loss of identity), my eyes turned into faucets. I cried driving down the street. I cried in grocery stores. I cried in church. Mind you, this was something that embarrassed me greatly. I didn't try to stop it. I just accepted it. After about 3 months, the worst of it went away. In retrospect, I can see that what was distinctly different about that depression was that I was grieving. Loss of marriage, identity, job, home, social status, possessions, you name it. I figure the tears had to do with grief. Maybe this will be of some help. Hang in there. Bipolar II, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, Agoraphobia & PTSD; Alcoholic in recovery since 3/21/07.
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• "Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens."
• "My little dog - a heartbeat at my feet." ~Edith Wharton
• "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." ~Ian MacLaren (Usually mis-attributed to Plato)
• "And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." ~Anais Nin
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bfly Posts: 4069
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Very interesting perspective Sarah! Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Kahlil Gibran
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” Leo F. Buscaglia
"Always fall in with what you're asked to accept. Take what is given, and make it over your way. My aim in life has always been to hold my own with whatever's going. Not against: with."
Robert Frost
"God doesn't give us more than we can handle, I just think He overestimates my strength!" lol- me
Bipolar I, PTSD, Bulimia, Anxiety, Fibromyalgia
Lithium 1500 mg; Lamictal 400mg; Busparone 60 mg; Armour Thyroid 30; Visteril as needed |
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JustJulie62  Posts: 925
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Shawn, maybe it is simply because you never allowed yourself to release emotions through tears. My husband is 56, and he has cried more since he met me (ha ha, working on emotions, childhood stuff) than he did his entire life. Let the feelings, and the tears flow. Why in God's name would you be embarrassed to cry in front of your children? Are you holding on to outdated perceptions of what or who a man should be. It would be healthy for your kids to see a softer side of their father, one who can show emotion. Eventually you will find this crying spell will diminish in frequency, but until then, I would recommend not being overly concerned or embarrassed either. I cry when I read Hallmark cards for Pete's sake! "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars" - Oscar Wilde |
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Bangbang Posts: 6207
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I was taught by my dad and grandfather taught me that boys don't cry and I was punished when I did...so most of my years on this planet I have not cried however when I did I always felt better. I think we men should be allowed to cry without people thinking we are weak. I am all messed up because of the way I was brought up. My kids were shocked when I cried but I now know I can cry in front of anybody. I have been able to do that now that I am 60 and my dad is dead. You are not drunk unless you have to hang on while lying on the floor. |
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shawn62 Posts: 250
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Thank you everyone my parents were pretty good. I would have never gotten into trouble for crying but my dad was a tough guy. And I think we tried to be like him. If something serious happened I would not hold back the tears but I start to cry over some things that should just warm your heart or make you a little sad. But I think maybe you are right I didn’t cry very much in my early adult hood. Maybe I do have to release something pinned up in me. Shawn |
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platelet60 Posts: 282
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I'm a 35 year old man and at this stage of my life I see crying as a sign of life that is basically to be encouraged. I'm very aware of the machismo factor, I grew up with all those stereotypes too. If you're a human being and you are paying any attention to the world around you you are apt to cry -- that's how I see it. However, at my old job, before I was diagnosed, I would duck out of the building and find a place behind a wall or something to go cry. That was disruptive,mentally ill behavior. But now my eyes water at things and I just feel like gratitude that I am able to feel something. I feel bad for people like my exwife who could never cry. Not judging them, I just think its part of the human condition. As long as its not causing a major disruption to your mental health. Somehow I've absorbed this factoid that if you cry in front of a woman more than twice she wont see you as a man, that women don't like crybabies. So there may be fine lines to walk... I don't know, interesting topic... Jesse
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