Bipolar Support Group

Post edited by: jc0801, at: 06/13/2013 02:33 PM

Hi, I just read what you had to say and I diffinetly feel for you. I have been bp all of my life and to me it sounds more like he had a drinking problem. I am also a recovering alcholic. I have been sober now for 15 years. I am not a professional, but I do think he needs help. He is the only one who can do that. The one thing you can do is take care of yourself and your children. You need to keep yourself safe and most important your little ones. Don't let him come around you or your kids if he has been drinking. I know that isn't much, but it is what I have at the moment. I sure hope it helps. They have a group for you called Al a non if you choose to stay with him. It is very helpful.

Post edited by: armymom8486, at: 10/26/2011 09:50 AM

armymom,

thanks for the reply. it just felt like i was alone until i found this website. I can see why it does look like he has more of a drinking problem. But living with him, ive seen all sides of him. Drinking does make his episodes alot worse. its like if hes not there at all. but some incidents do occur when there is no drinking and he looks the same. like if hes not the same person. just evil. there are times that he will calm down before things get worse. i always remember feeling, " i just need to wait for this to pass so he can be himself again" and when he is calm again then i explain what has happened. i just spoke to him and he finally agreed to get examined to find out what is going on. i also that u were in a discussion call CAN BIPOLAR PEOPLE HIDE MANIC EPISODE FROM OTHERS. and i have to ask. is that possible. u see it seems like he can hide this from others. sometimes its even hard to convince my own mother since she always sees him as a happy guy. but behind closed doors. only i see how he can be and so do my kids. will it get better once he is treated?

jc0801, in answer to your question, yes, it will get better once he gets treated. He needs to see a psychiatrist with you to be sure all his symptoms are explained so a completed evaluation can be made as to whether or not has has bipolar and if so, to start him on medications to control his symptoms. Not only will it curb the behavior, but he will feel better. It will take some trial and error to find the right medications and dosages so he has to be willing to be patient to try, but yes, he will get better.

I am BP and have been my whole life. I never got into the drinking thing and that is what saved me from ending up in places I would have done dumb things. I do rage but I will remove myself from where I am and then break stuff or even lift some pretty heavy things. going to the gym takes alot out of me and if I have alot of weight on then I just get myself worked up and get it done.

Back to your issues....he needs to take all booze and drugs out of the equation. the alcohol is bad enough but the drugs will double or triple his issues. If he doesn't want to remove the booze and the drugs then it's a total no go. Your kids can NOT see this and it will scare them for ever. Did you grow up in this?

A man has no reason to hit a woman and once he does the alcohol treatment then he needs to deal with anger issues. His problem with you cheating are his insecurities and nothing you do with stop that. I have some major issues with trust and I fight this demon every minute of my day. I'm a survivor and my life experiences have not helped my issues.

Other than the physical abuse I know what he is thinking because I am very similar minus the booze. I know if I drank then it would be the same.

My advice is basic....RUN...but if he will go for help with boose and drugs then there might be a chance.

Good luck

lj80

hes agreed to stop drinking. he says he wants to change. hes done this before so who knows if he means it this time. the only difference now is he actually is willing to try and find medication now. and im gonna stick by him this last time to help him out. i did not grow up in this environment at all. he did. i see his mom and i know shes the exact same way but nobody will tell her. im more than sure she is bipolar too but she will never admit she has a problem. i hate to see him this way. because when hes good, he is the one for me. he is the man i fell in love with. i do hope he really changes this time because from what i read on this website, it will only get worse. and i do not want my baby to grow up like him. thanks everyone for the feedback. there really wasnt anyone else to talk about this with. i will help him thru this but if he decides to help him self. i will call it quits.

i mean if he decides NOT to help him self.