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Anyone else out there have touch issues? I mean like serious touch issues.

I have issues with people touching me. A hand on the shoulder, a pat on my hand, hugs. Arrrggg hugs bug me the most. Yeah I may be glad to see you, but really you don't need to touch me. It's becoming quite serious. I don't even like my husband to touch me. It has to be on MY terms. Even a quick hug or a kiss on the cheek. It's destroying our sex life.

And who says I want to touch your hand in a handshake. I don't know where your hand has been. Took my tdoc aback when I refused to shake his hand. I simply said, I don't touch people. He said we'd have to discuss that at our next appt. That's tomorrow.

It's become a react first, think later thing. Someone snuck up on me at work and grabbed my shoulders. I instinctivly smacked him in the stomach. The room went silent. I appologized for hitting him, thankfully he's a great individual and said not to worry about it. But I do. Not the implications of me hitting him, but the fact that I did. Without an aware decision. (I don't know how to spell the right word, it starts with a c)

It's gone from being an irritation to a phobia that I cannot control anymore.Help me out on this one. please.

Post edited by: Edyn, at: 08/09/2011 04:48 PM

I am not uncomfortable when people hug or touch me for a couple of seconds. Longer then 5 seconds and I'm freaking out inside.

People sneaking up and grabing me are at risk. But I have PTSD Disorder too. AND I've been over-trained in physical combat. Bad combination. Some people are over-huggers and over-touchers.

Edyn I hope you can find the help you need. Be sure to tell the doctor ALL about this. Maybe he can come up with a reason for this feeling or a help program.

Edyn - I only have a hard time with men touching me. I notice that very rarely do they try to touch elderly or unattractive women. I have had my brother in law hug me. I made my husband to tell him to never touch me again. I have had a distant cousin by marriage hug me, again only did so to pretty hwp relatives. I had an instructor in high school.put his hand on my thigh. I set him straight. His daughter was one year older than me. This doesn't even touch the things that have been said to me, but I digress. My feelings about this are colored by sexual abuse and rape.in the past. I don't have a problem with people touching me on my terms. I sincerely hope that you figure out what is causing your feelings and can correct it. (((Edyn)))

It makes me angry when people touch me. Especially if someone trys to get intimate with me. If it is an insincere handshake or a general hug- I am ok now. I use to have issues with that to. Matter of fact it is even pissing me off writing about it. People just should leave me the fuck alone sometimes!

Absolutely! My family knows not to touch me. I totally understand the react first thing. My sister will ask my permission if she needs to even touch me on my shoulder for some reason. A quick handshake or one-armed hug is ok though. It's not a germ thing with me, it's more a 'get the hell away from me' type thing.

Totally not a germ thing. Until I start to think about it. Mostly a 'this is my space that belongs to me, any attempt to be in it will result in carnage.' Ok maybe not carnage but really it's my space. Not like I'm gettin all up in their face or sumpin like that

I have a cross-over DX of ADD Type 6. Have you read or heard of this? One of the main components is aversion and/or sensitivity to touch, light, smells, etc. with lots of overlap with BP.

I have to really know the person to want to be touched by them. I love being hugged by my close family and friends, but I hate the casual patting and hugs that is popular here in the southern states, as it really creeps me out and sets my hair on edge.

I am from the southern states and I love that atomosphere around here. People are generally very nice in the south. I guess its the environment you were raised in. I have issues with men I don't know touching me, whether it be to hug me whatever. If I know them no prob, if they were a friend of mine, but not like one of my dads old golf buddies. Former coworkers, people from church, new friends, someone who starts crying, or etc I am not bothered.