Bipolar Support Group

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Its currently 11:37PM, and I have been at this all day long trying to find a way to help my best friend, the woman I love..the one I pray every day I get to spend the rest of my life with-is in trouble.

For the sake of her privacy, I will just call her honey. Please bear with me, as Im incredibly worried and trying to find the best way to explain all of this.

Honey has had ten years of history with depression, bipolar and anxiety. Overall she has had this under control in the year since we have met. Over the past two weeks she has degraded to a frightening degree. Being a man who lives with BPD and has had my own battles, I recognize the symptoms and Im struggling to find ways to help.

She is at the point that she does not believe anything can help her. She does not believe that seeing another doctor, changing her medications, going to the ER or doing anything except curling into a ball and crying herself into a medicated sleep will help her. She is currently prescribed lamictal, celexa and ativan and the dosages and frequencies I am not sure of.

I am doing the best I know how...as you can see I am tired and erratic, and do not know which was to turn. I fear for her life in some respects, as it has gotten to the point of her making attempts on her life. This was not a serious attempt, but still something to worry about just the same.

If anyone has any suggestions...anything that may help, maybe even just some kind words of encouragement I might be able to give her, please do not hesitate. She means the world to me....and I would give anything to see her well. Thanks for taking the time to read this, I apologize if it is hard to follow and full of bad grammar, Im exhausted. -james

As far as words of encouragement. Maybe try to find some uplifting quotes to read to her or print off for her to read. Beliefnet.com has uplifting poems for depression. And please reassure her she is not alone and many people have felt the way she feels right now and got a med adjustment and are now feeling healthier. Also, she is more than welcome to log on here and join us. We would love to have her here. She needs a support system now more than ever.

Sending postive vibes your way and to your honey. (((Hugs)))

Keep posting. We care about you.

I am not yet to that extreme but have been for brief parts of the day.

My only suggestion is to hold and comfort her as best you can. Give her words of hope and encouragement once again the best you can. When you have been suffering for a long time and things just seem to be getting worse, it is hard to believe that any one can help.

I have been seeing a NP and she hardly helps out all and she asks very few questions.

Her primary role is to monitor my meds. I have had terrible luck with seeing counselors and therapists. I just don't believe they truly understand and they can get aggravated with me which is the last thing I need. So I don't see a therapist. I would love to try cognitive behavioral therapy, but can't afford it right now. Plus I think you have to be on meds that are working reasonably well for any psycho therapy to be effective.

Sorry I can't be of any more help than that. My current depression is due to my circumstances which most people say meds are effective against.