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So my girlfriend has been going between a mixed and depressive cycle for the past few days, and it has really been taking its toll on me.

For nearly three days straight now my heart has been pounding in my chest, I've not been getting much sleep, I can barely focus or think about anything else and it's driving me crazy. I know I need to give her space, but with the way she's been behaving, the pattern is almost the same as when she cheated on me in the past. It's brutally hard to keep myself in control of my own emotional overload.

Yesterday she then tells me that she is going camping with her friend Carly, which is cool, except that there is going to be a few guys there and I'm worried she's going to be tempted to cheat on me again, especially in her current emotional state of mind.

I am scared, and freaking out so badly. I have no idea what to do. I can't even express my concerns to her because I know she'll get angry at me for bringing up the past again. And I think there's a good chance that she'll probably break up with me again. Up until now our relationship has been the best it ever has for months.

I feel like my brain is going to explode. Is there anything I can or should be doing? I feel so powerless.

You can't just take the last episode into consideration tho, you maybe need to look at her and your relationship on a continuum and if you guys are in a good place right now, you don't really have to refer back to another time to determine the outcome of this.

Take care!

Soy

Considering your situation, you can not do anything except to trust her, even if that means that she does cheat on you. You can't make her make positive and faithful choices/decisions. That is up to her to do, or not. Your only option is to let her be who and what she is, and then based on her choices, you are left to accept, or to let go of her based on those choices.

Your worry over the possible choices she might make are founded and valid, based on past choices (the cheating). But, the fact of the matter is, she is free to choose. That puts you in a possible losing situation, and you will suffer grief if she acts on something negative with regard to your relationship with her.

Somehow you are going to have to accept that the consequences of being involved with her can likely become hurtful, but you can not take responsibility for what she chooses to do. -- That is the best advise I have to share with you, and it is strictly my opinion.

-- Best wishes to you.

Post edited by: starg8t, at: 07/29/2011 02:42 PM

Thank you very much for the feedback. May not be what I wanted to hear, but I think inside I already knew what the answer was. I just needed to hear it from someone else.

I guess we'll see what happens.

Thanks again.

Ideally, she would take into consideration that you would probably be uncomfortable with her spending the night with guys since she's cheated on you (and she wouldn't get mad at you for telling her how you feel), but she can do what she wants... Maybe they're just friends so she doesn't think it's a big deal to camp with them.

Well it turns out my suspicions were right. I just caught her tonight, red handed, cheating on me. I'm in a really bad place right now and our relationship is at an end, without reprieve this time.

I just wanted to thank you all for the wonderful support and advice I've gotten over the last few months. I wish it were enough, but some people simply refuse to even try. I'm pretty broken, but I'll get through it.

Take care of yourselves, and continue to be strong. Blessed be.

Take Care,

Soy