rhapsodyneyland
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our son is now 4 months old.. The thing is that we planned to have him together he was there for birth and all.. we broke up for sometime threats and all..because he claimed i didnt respect him as a man didnt take him seriously. We both have made mistakes, me with my passive aggresive confrontational issues and instead of telling him what my problem was with him i wouldnt say anything but yet my animosity would come out through action. then when he would figure out what was going on.. i would never say yeah thats the problem, id always say no thinking that I would hurt his feelings or something.. he finally accepted that some of his actions led to our problems and by him accepting responsibility, i took on mine and since christmas time we are trying to work things out slowly one day at a time.. he has apologized and says he would never hurt me, he just said those things to me because he was hurting and felt he had no other way to vent.. we are moving slow and cautiously because i dont want to hurt him with my stubborn way and he doesnt want to hurt me with his verbal abuse.. he knows there is no excuse for any of that.. and we are trying to work it out.. lets see how it goes.. by the way he loves his son and he is so good with the baby, I just need to learn how to treat him like a man instead of a child.. in many ways.. he also promised to take responsibility for his reactions so we will see how this works out..its hard to give up the reins when you are the older party in the relationship we are 11 yrs apart and just because of that I didnt really give him the type of respect I should give someone you call fiance.. lets see how it goes.. I want to send a prayer for all those going through hell as a supporter. I hope that you both can work things out.. what i realize it that it all boils down to how the man really feels about you.. and if it is real and he has some sort of conscious and you can reason with him there will be a way.. my 1st childs father had the same issue but you could never reason with him and he would never apologize or recognize his mistakes. His life ended in suiicide.. we were not together but he still was my friend.. Hopefully your partners will remember the loving commitment they made if he doesn't and cannot even apologize or even try to make a change prepare your mind body and soul to make your own change for your own sanity..if he ever comes to his senses you set your boundaries, recognize your mistakes and hopefully move past it all into a better place.. Hugs for you too.. Rhapsody |
