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06/19/2011 12:31 PM

Manic and risky sex

burtcat
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Has any one had really bad consequences from being manic and engaging in risky sex? For me I have had 2 unplanned pregnancies, contracted some STD's and had sex with multiple people at one time! Although I have never had a true one night stand where I never saw the person again...I was just wondering.
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06/19/2011 12:47 PM
Dit
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I had risky sex with multiple partners yrs ago in my early 20s, i contracted stds, luckily were not deadly ones. You are not alone, i was hypersexual and did not know it, was treated for depression anxiety did not know i had bipolar then.

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06/19/2011 02:03 PM
Sparkerama

It's called hypersexuality, and it's a behavioral symptom experienced by some bipolar people but not all. Some manic people become delusional, some gamble, some want to fight and argue, some want to have lots of sex, etc.

Obviously, it is a dangerous behavior, and good reason to seek better control of your mania.


06/19/2011 02:07 PM
capecod84
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Its hard. You have to get on a mood stabilizer to help control it. It really sucks because when your manic its so much fun and exciting to experiment and take risks. If you do this in personal it might carry over into professional relationships so you have to exercise caution that you don't get sexual harassment from a boss on the job because the bipolar makes you flirtatious. I still have urges to go out and meet men and hookup. Its like riding a roller coaster. Unfortunately alcohol is usually involved and that's trouble. Definitely make sure you are getting tested for aids and are using condoms and not relying on birth control pills. You really need to work with your therapist and be honest.

06/19/2011 02:44 PM
YorkieLove
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Last summer I went through a hypomanic episode where I had a huge increase in goal directed activity (internet sites) and hypersexuality. I don't believe in pornographic pictures of myself of any kind. During this time I actually webcammed doing different sexual things. I also slept with several people I met online over the course of three months.

I had no other signs of mania, but what I did was COMPLETELY out of character for me. I may have contracted HPV, but don't know for sure yet. I need to take another test. I was completely med compliant and seeing my pdoc every month. I told him about at least one of the guys, if not more. I don't know what else I could have done differently.

I pray that it never happens again.


06/19/2011 03:55 PM
capecod84
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I have never been married so I guess this did not cost me as much as my self worth and how people see me. I think going to the therapist frequently helps. I haven't kicked it. I have been abstinent for two years, not really by choice but for safety. The thought of monogamy bores me, but those are things I have to work on. Thank god I am single and going to church or I would be terror on wheels.

06/19/2011 07:04 PM
ApRiLGeTsAngry77

When I was with my former bf, I would go through phases where our sex life would be very active. I never had the urge to go outside the relationship but still pin point these high sex episodes to some mania and hypersexuality. As stated above, make sure you get tested and keep getting tested for atleast a year as it may take awhile for a diagnosis with some STDS reached. Also stock up on some condoms. Duruex is a good brand and it is affordable. Good luck!

06/19/2011 07:40 PM
capecod84
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I really think this is the part of bipolar that attracts a SO to us in the beginning, at least in the past it was true for me even going back to high school because I was a risktaker. The thing is these relationships never last because they are based on nothing but sex and usually not love. Staying away from alcohol and drugs precipitated this for me.

06/19/2011 10:25 PM
burtcat
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Yeah thanks for the thoughts guys...I just wanted to know I wasn't alone. Gratefully I am in a healthier relationship, we have been together for 4 years and I am sober so I don't engage in that stuff anymore! The urges do come but I am medicated so they pass before I have time to act on them!

But at the time when I was doing it I always felt like some super sex kitten. Like the most beautiful woman in the world! But after I always felt really slutty and violated..because I knew I deserved better! And most of the men I dealt with had no clue why I was the "party girl"...they just took advantage to the fullest!


06/19/2011 10:48 PM
borntimestwo
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In my teens and early 20's I did. I even got pregnant and my Daughter is from that period in my life. I don't know who her father is and it kills me every day that soon she will ask (she is 8 now)
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