Spouse of a bipolar person

you can help by being there when needed.but take care of your self also.be a friend.i asume that she is one her own financialy.she cant get to your bank accounts anymore?the hard parts is finding that balance between "tough love" and showing you care.both work!

it seems as age 30 is when this thing really is seen,then continues on for a few years.my wife was 35 when d'x.but the patterns go back over 10 years.the worst was just this past year.

shiela i thing its great that you can be so open about this.it what we(supporters)need.a look into the bp world without the "edit" button.many books you read are good but they tend to down play some areas.only address the general issues.we know the actions,the behavior,and aftermath,what we can get is the thought proccess.i get alot of i dont knows from my wife.not really helpfull cuz i dont know either!thats why i'm asking.i,m sure i'll be picking your brain more if its ok!

rob

im scared for u bduck... i dont want to hear of u being taken advantage of again, however, if she is for real this time, maybe she will get the help and start to heal.

i hope that i make sense today... ive came off my 3 day high yesterday and endured the shittiest day ever. u can read my diary if u want the details, lol.

anyway, to robs... about your wife getting the tats, i did the same thing! i have a gemini tattoo on my lower left side back and one on the front right side that reads "carpe diem" (meaning seize the day) .. they made it pretty by adding a butterfly beside it. i believe in chi, which means balance, (O.C.D) so thats why they are where they are. im not manic now but i still want another... japanese cherry blossoms (which also have a special meaning), but i have no idea where to put it because i dont want things out of balance. i also got my nose pierced, but unfortunately, it got infected and totally swelled my nostrils shut (lol) so i had to take it out! i may try it again later, who knows??

and back to to bduck... robs was totally right on the tough love thing... thats what i needed and recieved from my husband. he took control of getting me better, i put my life in his and my doctors) hands and its beein working for me... s~

Post edited by: sheilabeila, at: 01/03/2008 11:06

Would love to here more solutions and insight as well from the suffers of bp....Maybe it can help the supporter to understand how to act and understand whatthey are going thru....My ex just will not talk about it. I keep asking and she just will not explain.

Maybe she just does not know why she goes out and spends money, drinks, vandalize my truck...etc...herself.....