I was just going to recommend the FMLA, April, just before I got to reading your message! That can be such a relief and make a person feel so much better not having to worry about work so much! It also helps them focus on the one that needs their attention!
I totally understand about having an ill daughter who has missed so much school and being worried to death over her. My youngest is 13 [14 years in June 
] and I can't tell you how many days she's missed and signed out early this year. She started having chronic stress-induced migraines. And now she's definitely depressed and having those manic mood swings. Hyper for a few hours or a day and then so down she won't even talk to anyone. Her stomach is so torn up, if she's not on the highest dose of her reflux medicine, she 'throws up' everytime she gets stressed. She's also been bullied at school to the point of it being pure torture! I'm suspecting bipolar. The doctor is thinking the same thing, since that's what I have. Fortunately, for me, I'm disabled, so work isn't an issue.
However, something I would like to suggest. I didn't notice where you are located at, but if you are in the US, there is a thing called a 504. It's a federal program! You speak with the guidance counselor at her school, get a diagnosis from her medical doctor as to her exact problem in writing, and then meet with the counselor and her teachers. They can create a curriculum and/or even early dismissal after she takes certain classes or stays a certain amount of time. As this is federal, the teachers and schools MUST abide by what's outlined in the 504 or they risk losing their jobs. This can also be carried on through the remaining years of her school life if needed!
My daughter is in the 8th grade. As I said, she's missed countless days and signed out early countless times for migraines and stomach aches and simply depression and anxiety that leads to these. She is in a very, very delicate state at the moment, so everyone has to remain calm, with no animosity, no yelling, no stern voices...or she falls apart. (She was like that with me as a baby.)
They set it up so that she stays at school through her main classes, Algebra 1, English, and Social Studies/Science, then she's released at 1:15. She is going to arrive at school at 7:45 a.m. and go through the front doors and straight to her homeroom teacher's classroom, in order to avoid the bullying. She's going to eat lunch in her teacher's room, because of the noise and how it makes her feel and that she can't eat due to all the noise. She gets up to an extra hour for taking tests. They are going to work up homework, classwork, and tests to suit her needs and capabilities at the moment. AND, if staying that long is still a problem, they are going only make her attend English and Algebra 1, and she'll be released at 11:35.
There is also a homebound program where your daughter would stay out of school, but still be enrolled. She would receive 5 or so hours of one on one teaching at home or a library or something. She would be given her homework and you would have to supervise it getting done. However, the medical doctor has to recommend it before you can apply for it. And I can tell you, depending on your daughter's illness, this can be a difficult program to get into, because doctor's are very reluctant to recommend it out of fear the child will never want to go back to school.
For us, getting the modified school times and environment is a God-send! The doctor's weren't willing to recommend a homebound program, so this was the next best thing. My daughter was very pleased and is going to try her hardest to do this! So...I'm thrilled to death, because it's going to help her continue school till the end of the year.
Also, the teachers each opted to wave all homework that she had missed and start her anew with extra assignments or quizes or things to make grades for her.
I was so pleased with this! And that was wonderful, because we had gone to visit a psych that morning who was such a dud!!
Maybe that will work! You can ask the counselor or the doctor about the 504 and the homebound programs, and see which they are willing to do!
I hope it works for you! And I am praying for your daughter to get better. I know it's hard on you and her both!
Hugs!!
Zin
