armywifemommaof3
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Hi, I am new to this. I have never joined a support group or even looked for support outside of family. I have been married to my high school sweetheart since 2004. We have been together since 2001. I am currently in a bad situation with him. Myself and many of his family members believe that he is bipolar. Although, he has never been diagnosed with it, only bc he will not go get help. The whole 6 years that we have been together have been sort of rocky, having some good times and some bad. As the years pass, the symptoms seem to be getting worse. We have three small children, ages 4,2 and 1. We are also currently pregnant with the fourth. We are a very young couple, ages 23 and 22. The things that I am currently dealing with is that he will choose not to come home from work, not contact me, I have no contact with him when he is gone. So, I have no idea where he is or what he is doing or if he is even ok. In the past, he would only take off and leave or not come home, if we had recently got into an argument or if something was going on in his life. It now seems as if he is doing it for no reason. Things can be as good as expected and then he just doesn't show up, or says he is going somewhere and will be right back and never shows back up. When he comes home, he says that he doesn't know why he does it anymore. We will go through times where everything will be soo great for a couple of weeks, but then something will happen and he will take off again. It makes me feel as if he is afraid of commitment or afraid of a stable life. When he comes home and I try to talk to him about all of this, he says that he only does it bc he knows that I am a stable environment for him. He knows that I will always be here for him. Things have NEVER got physical with us, but he does abuse me emotionally, verbally and mentally. He says that he does not mean the things he says later on, but he is just mad or upset and doesn't know how else to defend himself. I am at the point where I am ready to just give up and walk away. But letting go is so hard to do and everyone else has given up on him, so I don't want to also. I love him with all of my heart and he says that he loves me too. He has had a VERY rough childhood,his father just recently passed away and his mother is sick and has Lupus. I don't know where else to turn to and I am just seeking advice on how to deal with him and his situation and what you think on the diagnosis. Does it sound like he may be bipolar or am I the one that is going crazy now?? |
