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red1965 Posts: 5630
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Members, I would like to remind all that we are here to support one another, through the good times and the bad. In posting I would like to invite constructive posting and remind all that you have a choice to post or not. If what you want to post something that is aggressive or confrontational to the point of destructive, please don't post (you do have the choice). If there is a problem with the post that needs to be corrected you can contact any of the group leaders for assistance and so that we may address the issue at hand. There are times we need to be very direct in our posting, confrontational is not necessary however. A friend and mentor to me on this site once told me that there are times when the best answer to a post is not to answer. Once again we have a choice. Direct attacks on ANY member of this group will not be tollerated. |
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skb1128  Posts: 32
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thank you so much for this! i'm a new member and was begining to think that maybe i had picked the wrong place to come for support. Shawna
Bipolar I with mixed episodes
rx: depakote 2000mg
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Macrina  Posts: 245
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skb, I came over here after an experience at another bp site that was much more "wild" with people swearing and calling each other names a lot. There was a lot of what I consider disrespect there and I was very discouraged. This group is different. People are very supportive of one another. The group leaders do an excellent job of keeping things in a good space here -- not always easy to do when we are discussing things that are often deeply painful. People are people, and we're not always going to agree, but I think you will be happy here if you are looking for real support and caring. |
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cirquepourvous  Posts: 1710
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i'm fine with support, caring and advice. we all need it. but we are not correct all the time. i know i have been ignorant to a personal situation that was obvious to people i know. sometimes being honest is misconstrued as being destructive or confrontational. i think we should strive for honesty not hurtful and for positive criticism where needed. unfortunately sometimes honesty isn't welcome because the truth can hurt. Post edited by: cirquedumoi, at: 11/16/2008 22:13 death happens every tiniest fragment of time and happens again every smaller tiniest fragment of time and there can be a tiniest fragment of time that makes life worth not losing . . . |
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jsrdrnr Posts: 1928
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welcome to the group skb...from my experience we just hit a bump in the road. It does happen from time to time unfortunately. MDJ had been my saving grace. I hope that we can offer all that you need!!! My best day is worse than the worst day you have ever imagined. |
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carmen33 Posts: 8702
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Red, is right there is a way to offer support and yet not agree with what the person is saying, a lot of times, there will be just out and out personality conflicts, when I first entered the rooms of AA, I learned that alcoholics all think that they are alone in this world, that no one can possibly understand or have the problem as bad, the same can be said for bipolars as well. Sometimes a simple I understand that you are hurting, I'm here for you, or sometimes just staying out of the conversation is the best. Just a reminder of what each group is for: Introductions: This is where new members can come and introduce themselves, and be greeted to the group. General and Support: This is where we discuss what is going on with us in relation to our bipolar/our loved ones bipolar. It's not a place where you come to discuss your views on love, religion or politics. Lounge: this is "Where" you discuss your views, post your poetry, etc. We have a poetry thread, we have a religious thread, I believe we even have a Love thread, we have a joke of the day, a art of the day, etc. Meds and tips: this is where you can ask about different medications, offer up tips you have for dealing with your bipolar and the things that happen to you. Not everyone is going to agree with you, not everyone is going to pat your hand and say "it's ok, honey" there are times we do not agree, myself included, I'm one of those like Red said, sometimes the best answer is to say nothing at all, and while I will read the thread I don't join in on it. If your not sure that you can join in, in a constructive, supportive manner, just simply don't join in, once you make a post in something, you've joined that discussion and will continue to receive notifications on it, till you go to your profile and find the thread you no longer want to receive notices about and click the unsubscribe. If you would like to post something and your not sure where too, ask one of us leaders, there are several of us here now, and all are willing to help. If you find that what you have posted has been taken off track, you can ask to have it locked, (no more posts allowed) deleted, etc, if you are having trouble with another member, ask one of the leaders to help you with it, we'll be happy too, you can also bring your discussions into pm's where you are not inflicting your conflict on anyone else. we also have a thread in the lounge for such discussions, it's called opinions. I live by the rule of when in doubt, don't!, kept me out of trouble many times.. your all welcome to adopt it. "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."
http://www.psycheducation.org/depression/02_diagnosis.html#soft
http://www.mdjunction.com/hidradenitis-suppurativa
http://www.mdjunction.com/diabetes-type-1
http://www.mdjunction.com/diabetes-type-2
http://www.mdjunction.com/bipolar-type-ii |
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cirquepourvous Posts: 1710
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so where are these other threads? this is the only one i seem to get unless forwarded by a posting. death happens every tiniest fragment of time and happens again every smaller tiniest fragment of time and there can be a tiniest fragment of time that makes life worth not losing . . . |
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carmen33 Posts: 8702
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Morning, to find the other posts that people have made, you can click on the bipolar (whatever group you are in) forums, that will take you to the headings of each different forum, within that forum, like the introductions/general/lounge/meds, click on which one you want to look around in and that will bring up all the posts that are in that category. For example, the anyone awake thread is over in the lounge. Anytime that someone posts in a thread you have joined, either by clicking on subscribe to this discussion or having made a post in it, auto subscribe, will send you notifications, "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."
http://www.psycheducation.org/depression/02_diagnosis.html#soft
http://www.mdjunction.com/hidradenitis-suppurativa
http://www.mdjunction.com/diabetes-type-1
http://www.mdjunction.com/diabetes-type-2
http://www.mdjunction.com/bipolar-type-ii |
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Yvonne802 Posts: 2055
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I think most people are different here on the forum than they might be in there 3-d life. It is easier to write something confrontational or hurtful here as a post that to say it face to face. One mans truth may not be another mans truth. Be gentle people. A dream becomes a goal when action is taken toward its achievement~ Bo Bennett
There is only one way... to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.~ Dale Carnegie
I laugh, I love, I hope, I try I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry.
And I know you do the same things too,
So we're really not that different, me and you.
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norma  Posts: 10109
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Constructive listening...when reading comments to discussions that you have started it might serve you well to be open for opinions and advice that you may not expect. The whole idea of opening a discussion is to get a variety of ideas. Also, if a discussion is opened the author should return to it when there are posts. If things become where the author cannot handle it, let a leader know you need help. When the author is finished with the discussion and doesn't wish to have any further comments, just ask a leader to lock it. Support can come in many forms...it can be the person who pats you on the back, the person who lends a shoulder to cry on, or even the person who says you are out of line and need to think about what you are doing. The latter is sometimes perceived to be confrontational, but sometimes those who care about us are willing to do that to help. It is the way it is said that can make the difference. Comments made by me are from my own experience and they are my opinion alone, whose intent is only to share that opinion and not to give medical advice nor discourage from seeking medical help. Medicine is best left to the professionals that is what they do.
"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
Disclaimer: The information provided in MDJunction is not a replacement for medical diagnosis, treatment, or professional medical advice.
Rest in Peace, Gloria...you will be missed. |
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