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Dear Ebonardi- A lot of what you have described you have been going thru is exactly what my ex is like. Throwing things, then wonderful, then scaring us, then apologetic, etc etc. He also had me fearing we'd lose our home. Twice he just took 2 thousand dollars out of our acct. and the mortgage check bounced and a bunch of bills bounced. Mine swears he didn't gamble, yet online betting catalogs keep coming in the mail. He can rack up ten thousand dollars on charge cards in very short time. I think as long as your husband goes to a good psychiatrist, and relinquishes ALL credit cards and finances, and goes to anger mgmt., you have hope. I had to wind up getting a divorce. I still really love him. But because he wouldn't try meds or get beyond his denial, things escalated over the years to include binge drinking, physical and emotional abandonment and, basically, I just got to the point where I felt he was just using me for all he could get. Very little give and all take in the relationship. He too embarrassed our daughter with outbursts in front of family, friends, and neighbors. It is awful for the kids to go thru that. That was a big factor in my decision to divorce. I couldn't let our daughter believe this was a 'normal' relationship, and I don't ever want her married life to be this sad and dysfunctional. At least she saw me get out of an abusive situation. I am so missing the great husband and father he used to be. He carried on from May till end of October that he wanted a divorce, he can't stand me, can't wait to move out of this @*ing house, doesn't love me anymore, acting all happy about the divorce, refusing to see a doctor, making big plans for his new life, he abruptly told me tonight that I threw him out like trash. |
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