Dealing with my bipolar husband and our 3 boys

You did the right thing in getting you and the kids out of there, even the puppy too, sometimes people forget that not only does this effect the humans, it can effect the animals too.

Illness or not, there is no excuse for throwing things at people. Do you have anyway of knowing that he has been taking his medications like he was suppose too? if he wasn't then this could explain his behavior but doesn't excuse him from being responsible for his behavior..

Do what you have to do to insure yours and the childrens safety, right now that is the only priority that you should have.

It is one thing to honour someone you love who has a debilitating illness like bi-polar and a totally different ball game to allow them to abuse you, your children and pet. At all costs you must keep yourself and them safe.

My husband likes to go off his meds now and again ( he enjoys the early stages of being manic so he tells me) and it eventually causes pain and suffering as to come back down he drinks and then get depressed and emotionally withdrawn. To his credit he has freely given me all control over our finances so any damage he can do in his manic phase is limited. Whilst when he gets depressed, emotionally withdrawn and drinks that upsets and worries me he is never abusive.

Even those who are ill have take a responsibility for their actions and abuse is never acceptable in my book.

Please take Care

Tara

Carmen

Did you connect with any local groups or resources? ...Just curious.

Regards,

Jim

Only you know what is in your heart and if you love him ( in whatever form for you that takes) and want to stick with him that has to be your choice and yours alone.

You cannot make him do anything - even take his meds - but you can insist that he allows you to control the joint finances for the security of the family as a whole (including him!)

For me any threat,, or real risk, of physical abuse would be a deal breaker and I do feel that you owe it to you and your family to ensure that you are never put in danger - or fear of danger - ever again. Maybe a third party needs to be involved but I am not aware that bi-polar authomaticaly equates with abuse. As I have said, my hubby can be a real idiot and become emotionaly distant but he is never abusive ( even when drunk). Violence is never okay.

I understand the fear of change and wish you luck and all the support in the world for whatever you decide to do bcause it is obviously a huge decison and a tough call either way.

Tara

Post edited by: Tara, at: 12/12/2007 07:50