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I have been involved in a bipolar/addiction relationship in differnet ways. One way was from the outside looking in.My sister is bipolar/addicted to meth living with my mother and I watch that relationship play out for 7 years before it finally all came to a head where I ended gaining custody of my sister's child, she ended up in jail, and my mother ended up an addict. That relationship sounds just like yours. My mother would stay up and worry about where she was, what she was doing, and make herself sick. All the while trying to take care of her own mental and physical health needs. My sister never showed any remorse for the turmoil she caused my mother and would continue to do it until I finally showed up with the police and made it stop. Now I have also been involved in a relationship where I was the person worrying with my mother. Once my mother got my sister out of her life she needed a substitute. I was available lol. I let her drain my emotions for 4 years before I had enough. I allowed her to distract me from taking care of myself emotionally and physically, as well as my own family for that time as well. So from both sides,from my point of view and my experience, stop worrying, stop pacing, stop staying up late, stop letting them see you sweat. They thrive on it. The fact that our lives have been affected by their actions is what they, the bipolar/addict, feed off of. Let me add that I know that this is not an easy task to ask of a person. It took me 28 years before I truly was able to cut the unhealthy relationship with my mother. And she still hasn't cut out the unhealthy realtionship with my sister. But it is something to try learning coping skills to deal with and work towards. This is based on my experience and only wish to share it in hopes that it helps maybe one person. Best wishes and Happy holidays Post edited by: bipolarmomma, at: 12/04/2007 10:58 Post edited by: bipolarmomma, at: 12/04/2007 14:08 BE BLESSED!
Bipolar Group Leader
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