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I don't want the marriage to end,, and she says she doesn't really know...

It is not all her fualt( i have been abusive to her in fits of her fighting with me(i am trying to control that better..sometimes though it just comes out(she really lashes sometimes)

any advice from you all would be of great help!!

You could use some counseling on two areas, one to learn about the illness of bipolar and how to deal with someone with that disorder, and two a anger management course. It will teach you better how to express and deal with your anger, even if she starts the fight.

I am glad to hear that maybe she is heading in the right direction in getting treatment, when unmedicated, I can be a real B****

Carmen

I do exactly what your wife is doing to you and most the time never have remorse. When she isolates for me either I want to be alone or I want attention. However I don't tell my husband so he does not know what to do.

He really does not understand the disorder and really honestly is no help because he does not read up on it. He has been to a few appointments. I suggest you read up and support her and try to understand so when she does what she does you know why.

There was this one time when I isolated and he told me to get myself ready and took me out to do my favorite thing, that helped got my mind of what I was thinking and had a good time.

I wish you the best of luck, hopefully soon she will be medicated if she is bipolar but keep in mind it takes some time to find the right meds and for them to work.

Hang in there,

Lilly

Thanks all...I could really use some help with dealing with this...i am wits end ...