Bipolar Support Group

I'm back. Everything was seemingly pretty good until this week. He had a roomate, work, our relationship was going pretty good and then bam. First, he received a call asking for references on his roomate who was obviosuly moving out but not going to tell him. Then the long job he was supposed to have fell through because of economy issues and now guess what.

Sometimes I feel like he can't communicate to others (such as the roomate) his frustration, and he feels like he is spinning out of control. In an attempt to regain that control he takes it out on me by breaking up with me telling me he could never love me (after 2 years), he doesn't want what I want etc. Is this common?

And then what? Usually about 5 days later he calls and apologizes for the episode and wants to work it out. I've done it a few times but the end result is always the same. How do you keep your heart open and available when you know that your going to be hurt.

My even greater fear is that he won't call at all.

I'm so sad, I just don't know what to think. My heart wants him back and my brain says maybe it's time to find someone else.

I think it would be helpful to hear, from another BP's viewpoint, that stress often triggers episodes of dysphoria (I think tbat is the word) which basically just means "agitated mania" characterized by anger and irritation. I know that doesn't make it any easier to deal with but maybe it helps just to know that it's not really his fault.

My advice to you would be to focus on yourself and get as much help as you can in dealing with his mood swings and outbursts that way you know you're strong enough to live with or without him, if it should (hopefully not) ever come to that. I hope you will be blessed with all the strength you need to get you through this trial.

I agree with Kate. Focus on you and your strength. Maybe consult a good reference like, "Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder". It's quite a good book.

Peace to you. (((Hugs))) --peach