I need to feel the love people! please

Like many of the ones before, I suggest counseling for the both of you.

God bless and I hope it all turns out well for you.

BillieGail

Also I always have to check my motives. If I am writing letters merely to explain--to have people understand better--then I think it's a good motive. If I am writing letters to get even, then I'm getting into trouble I can't handle.

LOL

Jim

BillieGail

I've been known as a Bitch most of my life, and I learned to just accept that as part of my personality...lol, and become kinda proud of it, I use to have a keychain, that said 0 to Bitch in under 60 seconds. I was told I was lazy and a bitch, and this was coming from family, Now that I have proper diagnosis for most of what is going on in this body of mine, they seem to understand now that I can't and could not control what was going on. I have diabetes and sleep apnea, I quit breathing at night up to 60 times a hour and 20 seconds at a time, hard to get any restful sleep doing that, I could sleep for 20 out of 24 hours, and still be exhausted. Not to mention the fact of the Bipolar and the depression that comes long with it.

Untreated the bipolar would cause the rages that so many of us talk about, I've struggled for years to come to grips with that rage, and managed to learn for the most part when it was coming on, and go hide in my room or house with a disturb and die sign on my door. Lol, my brothers learned very quickly that when that sign was up,stay away from me, unless you wanted to be ripped to shreds. Took my Mother a little longer to get it through her head. After my attempt in July, I think that they have finally opened their eyes and really see what has been going on, I still have times they say, just think yourself out of your depression, I want to smack them sometimes, don't they think that if I could do that, that I would?

I am afraid to say, you can't spend your life hiding away, it just doesnt' work like that, I could happily spend the rest of my days, being a hermit...

Do what you can to teach them about this disorder, and if they don't want to learn, then there is nothing you can do. Maybe get them books, or movies or something dealing with the bipolar subject, it might get through, otherwise, do yourself a favor and accept that they can't accept your illness, and just learn to love them for the PITA's they are...(PITA=Pain in the A..)

Carmen

Confront all of you husbands family members and include him

My parents did not want to accept that I was Bi-polar soooooo it was everyone the closest to them faul

t. I hope this is making scense.

Let me know

Hugs-T

As far as the situation with your husband and his family I would ask a few questions. First, why are you still with him? Do you really love and get that much from him or is it a convenience thing? If it is love, does his family play an important part of that or are they just baggage? If it is for convenience, you have to ask yourself how much he is hurting you and confront him on it. I have bipolar and I would never do anything like that to my lover as I have far too much respect. I have problems with her mother who judges me for what we are. I have shared that with my lover, but I will not allow her to ruin my life. We have come to an agreement on what we will do when she is around so that we are represented as a couple. We are lesbians. Her mother has religious believes about that and will not accept us as a couple or allow us to stay in the same room, let alone bed while visiting their home. But at the same time she will come and stay in our home (where we do share the same room and bed) and not have any issue with it. We have learned to deal with it by my partner (her daughter) calling me honey, making loving jestures to me, and when we visit we have chose to stay at a hotel instead of her home. To me that is satisfying because my lover acknowledges me in her presence, and we spend less time at their acutal home or with her because of her own choice.

You need to hold your husband accountable for his actions. If he is not able to control them, then you are not safe. Seek medical help with him and then work on it with a counselor. Bipolar should not be an excuse to be a jerk. There will be moments sure, but not always. You are a person and for that you deserve respect. Command it or make the decision to accept the behavior and go on, or find a better life. I know it is not that simple - but over the next year that is what you need to do. Otherwise you are giving in to the believe that society has which is that bipolars are crazy and out of control. With proper treatment we are accountable.

I wish you the best, stay true to yourself. Would you accept that behavior from someone else? Or do you just do it because you have been married for so long? Life is too short to be dumped on, have self respect and demand others' respect.