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My fiance has zero frustration tolerance. This especially sucks when I am struggling as his yelling makes my head roar and split. Help!

I have a lady that works for me and she is hard of hearing and yells in my ear...I have to ask her to lower her voice.

Try asking him to please lower his voice, and talk in a lower voice yourself. This used to work for me when I taught school and the kids would get loud and I would have to talk louder to be heard.

If his yelling is from his frustration level it might help to just walk away if he is directing the yelling at you. If he is yelling at you then, that is abusive. First step is asking to stop and see if he can do that. Walking away when he is yelling will not reinforce the behavior. Standing there and trying to reason with him while he is yelling just gives him an audience.

He needs to learn to control his anger and frustration. It is his problem.

And you might want to see if he needs his hearing checked. A lot of people who yell have a hearing problem. Listening to loud music, job related hearing loss, or some other physical problem may be causing him to yell.

I wish it were just his hearing... but i'm sure this is not the problem. I have arranged for him to come to my therapy sessions once a month to help him understand what's going on with me and to get some couples counseling. I feel very helpless becuase i need his help with the children and he can be very helpful to me in other ways sometimes. It's just that when he yells at me or the children it messes with me. He says he is trying to do better and never forgets to point out my outbursts... which are unfair to everyone I know. I can try to imagine the frustration of loving someone with bipolar I am probably hell to live with sometimes... I just figured that I was not alone in this situation and so I started the discussion. Hopefully the therapy will be helpful to him. Thanks for the advice.

I also live with someone with frustration issues. I have learned over the years, that his anger is not directed at me but rather the situation. Walking away and brushing myself off (yes I literally do this) helps me remember not to get sucked in. And having my issues brought up really doesn't help the matter either. I know living with me has it's challenges but I am working on it. I found therapy helped, we are now in family counseling having gone thru couples coundseling for awhile. Good Luck

Dump him.....it will never, ever, ever change. People like that deserve to be alone.