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Does anyone have any suggestions/thoughts on how loved-ones of someone with BP can control their own anger & communicate with the bp person? My wife has bp and when she self-medicates, doesn't go to therapy, doesn't sleep, stops taking her meds, she has pretty severe mood swings and is triggered by virtually anything that I do. She does have some abandonment & other psychological stuff going on, but when she flips out & attacks me, I tend to become very defensive. I've tried to walk away, not say a word, get in my car & leave for a bit, put on headphones, ignore her, etc. but it doesn't work. She finds a way to continue & continue & continue to belittle me. So I get angry & become defensive. I have said some really mean things to her, most of which I regret because those words are used against me in a future mood swing. I'm trying to learn more about BP and I'm desperate to find a way to communicate with my wife when she gets this way. I know she loves me & doesn't mean the things she says at those times, but wow it is difficult not to engage. Any mention of her bp when she is "swinging" and it just escalates. She doesnt like to blame her mental disorder for anything or take responsibility for her behaviour, but she wants me to see the error of my behaviour and actions & words and tell her I'm sorry & that it will never happen again. I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells. Any advice/words/thoughts? |
