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Ok, so i mentioned in a earlier thread that i was cooking a nice dinner for my finacee tonight.

The menu I chose was lobster tail, crab legs, shrimp scampi and artichokes.

I have never cooked lobster or crab legs before so i was WAAAAYY nervous about it. I absolutly love to cook...it makes people happy, but even for me this was out of my "comfort zone".

Well we had dinner and it was incredible...(TMI ALERT IN NEXT SENTANCE)...it was so good I think Brandy was nearing a orgasim just from the food lol.

So here is my question, what is the last thing YOU did outside YOUR "comfort zone" and how did it turn out?

The last thing that I did out of my comfort zone was probably hanging out with someone that I really would never have expected to get along with. I went on a double date with my husband and one of his friends and his friends girlfriend. We went to a comedy club. It was ok I guess but I dont feel that it really turned out well. I think I tried a little too hard to be interactive, which I am not very good at. Plus my husband didnt enjoy himself which means automatically tht I didnt either. Im glad your evening turned out well though. Good for you and enjoy the rest of your night!

Plus discussing some personal issues online here. Im normally very picky about what I discuss anywhere with anyone.

This one actually turned out pretty good. It felt good to air out some stuff and get real unbiased feedback.

Post edited by: takingit1dayatatime, at: 03/05/2010 07:41 PM

Hi Tom. First let me say nice choice for dinner. You nailed it those are foods women always seem to connect with a romantic dinner.Second you are funny with the tmi alert!! lol

I am sure i was meant to come across this thread tonight.I did just today step out of my comfort zone for the first time in over 5 years. i will try and tell it in short but no promises.

So my husband is my 24/7 caregiver.I am so scared to be away from him it causes panic attacks that are so bad 5 specialists told him he was to stop working and stay with me all the time!! like we shower together everything together all the time. i know it is so hard on him and he is so great about it. Chad is a very well educated man. He has given up his careers and any independent life to be with me all the time. You see the issue is that i hallucinate and i hear things that are not always there.This causes a fear i can not describe. It doesn't matter that your brain knows the scary vision playing out in front of you isn't real what matters is that your eyes, that you have trusted all your life to tell you what is real and what is not are telling you it is real. On top of that i do not trust the good in people i am not people friendly, here at mdj is the first time i have ever had real friends that i can trust not to stab me in the back or turn your backs on me because you are afraid of my illness. Chad is the only person who stayed and is loyal and honest so naturally i got to the point where he is the only one i trust not to run or ignore me when i snap in public or when the stuffed grizzly bear runs across the store. He will tell me to ignore it i know it is not real.You know, He is my reality meter.

so anyway we got in a stupid fight this morning and i could not take it anymore so i told him to get out of the car he walked to my moms i drove mikayla to her appt and ran an errand all with out him. I was so scared and yet i could finally do it!!I was so far out of my comfort zone!!

How did it turn out, you asked? Amazing he got a long over due and much deserved break from the constant shift in moods and the constantly watching me suffer in one way or another.Mikayla and i are closer then ever and i feel like there is even more changing with removing the metals then i realized or believed i guess is a better way to put it. My hubby is really pleased and really proud of me and that feels amazing, most important, i am proud of me and i haven't felt that way in so long i can't even remember the last time i was proud of myself.

Sorry i am rambler. lol thanks for this thread.It is fat that you put it out today

I am outside my comfort zone every time I go to shopping whether it is the grocery store or anywhere else. I try to have my husband go with me when I have to go the grocery store. I am not agoraphobic, because I can get out to go to work and be around people in general. It's crowds I can't take, so actually getting into crowed places without panicking is a huge out of comfort zone experience for me.

Usually when I go to the gym I will go to the classes. I know right where to go and they instruct you on what to do. Last night I missed my yoga class but I really wanted to still hit the gym so I went and searched for a machine I liked. I felt weird and nervous because didn't know how to work it. I am sure I looked like an idiot for a few minutes and I almost had an anxiety attack but I figured it out!! It felt good to stick with it and work out.

I worked our tree service booth at the Home and Garden Show which is like being in a fish bowl for 4 days with thousands of people to talk to putting on my Happy Happy for all to see. I do it because my husband, who has no issues, hates it with a passion! It is my gift to him however it is very draining. Our second one is on the 21st thru the 24th of this month so I really hope he appreciates it because it is a stressor for two days before to thru the end of the show, so much so I want to vomit and I eat my benzos like candy which I normally don't.

Thanks for the compiment on the menu choice...I try to be romantic, sometimes I get it right

I dread it when I have to engage in any type of confrontation. My old way was to try to avoid it, but it would just eat me up inside. I have been working really hard the past couple years to change that and I think I am almost there. I'm stepping way out of my comfort zone when I have to handle a difficult situation. I'm never going to like it, as I'm sure no one does. But I'm at the point now where as much as I don't like it, I can still follow through. This is huge for me.