Bipolar Support Group

My Husban was dx with Bp in Aug. For the last 5 years of our Marriage he has alway's blaimed me for our intimate issues (lack of) I started beliving that it was all my fault, but latly I have been paying more attention and have found that it has not been me, but him. Anyone else have the same issues?

Oh yes, it can affect the way they relate to you with intimacy. I have seen it both ways either avoiding or wanting too much also it has gotten kind of weird too at times and it makes me really uncomfortable.

I've not felt secure in myself for so long because he alway's made it out to be my fault, but since I have tracked it I've learned that it wasn't me the whole time. And yes it is very weird at times, like when 2 hours before he was so verbly abbusive and then act like nothing had happend and then wanted to be intimate that really makes me uncomfortable.

Yes mine has done that too and I feel it is a very negative pattern that shouldn't be reinforced. I respond that I am not feeling like being intimate right now after the things that he said about me. Then it often starts him in again into the abuse cycle.

you nailed that one. Opps here he comes, gotta go. I'll check back in a little while.

I understand. I'll try to be here for you and I hope I can help. There are other partners dealing with this stuff too and they are very supportive and helpful.

Glad you found us!

Thank you, My family all live away from me and I haven't made any friends were I live now. I felt helpless and alone until I find all of you. Thank you all!!!

Hello Catlover,

I am too, a cat lover!

I think you are talking about sexual intimacy? When can anyone have any intimacy sexual or psychological when the partnership is dysfunctional?

Being distant, angry, and put off and then requesting marital favors is nasty. It is not a real relationship. We all become whores, empty of relationship intimacy.

I can understand your distaste of it.

I wish you were not experiencing this. It is awful.

God Bless you both.

yah im dealing with the same thing.its hard sometimes

I think of trying to be intimate with an (untreated) BP like my BF as strictly dealing with an ill person. In the years I have known him I think it was never about love, it was chemistry and if I was in the mood I'd go for it.

Sometimes I wonder, can an untreated BP person even feel love for another person? Mine doesn't appear to. He does major things for me. But I feel that there is a connection missing. He is too much into himself, even his smile is manipulative. Yet he says he can't live without me. And he gets depressed enough to seem to back up that statement.... but real genuine selfless love... I never feel that from him no matter what he says or does. And without that the intimacy is, more or less, just pleasant athletics to me.