Sometimes it is pure selfish. Haven't they ever seen anyone sick part of the time. I had a Physican friend in Galveston and his wife was one of those long blond hair beauties who became a closet alcholic. that was to mask her other problems. She did insane things and I was there every step of the way. Now the distance is becoming more prominant. I wrote him a email and sent it. He has never cut me any slack and I have always been the kind one. But in this email I let him have it. Don't make promises you don't intend to keep, don't tell anyone things you never meant to do. I think the stigma is that it just might embarress them to be seen with you because we all know that God put complete profection in this world. I think the caytlst here is the stigma of it being percieved a mental illness so therefore we are all crazy. If you can't be my friend the way I am and accept me for the way I am then you are not a friend and certainly a true friend. I asked Terry if he knew the true meaning of friendship. You are there through the good and bad. We never discuss it in my family. My daughter is a solalite that could never have any imperfection in her life so it is never discussed and that is fine. That bubble she lives in just might break one day but for anyone family or not it is not acceptable behavior, it is cruel, it makesyou feel less of a person. But sweetie you so have the edge. They are missing so much by not sharing your life with you. We are judged by not who we are but the misceptions of what they want us to be. Ignore them, leave the room and if it were me with my outspoken ways I would tell them. This will never be discussed again. This is my life, not yours and if you can't support me then just leave me alone. I did not ask for this and I sure don't want it. Adverisy only makes us stronger but do not allow them to ever talk and make jokes about your illness. I will come up there and do a tirade like I did in the reception room at a Doctor's office to parents and children. My daughter always says " Oh No Mother is going to assert herself again" which is only done when there is no other way to solve a problem. Now be strong and remember what I said about walking away. There is no excuse for that behavior especially family and if they had been true triends they would still be there. Look at the afflications in this world. I lost my husband to Alzheimers. It was the most heart breaking thing I ever had to do but I did it and you can too. auntie60 Dean |
"The part of my recovery plan that I would say made up 80% is MDJ. I suffered a lot prior to finding MDJ, felt alone and had no one to talk to who really understood me. In the Bipolar Group I found like minded individuals who I could relate to and who offered support to me when I needed it. As I recovered, I could then offer support to them which gave me a good feeling about myself. I have met some great people here who I would class as good friends and know I would still be in the slump I was in without them. Now I am stable, I know that MDJ plays an important part in keeping me that way. Thank you MDJ for being there for us all and making us no longer feel alone." (liamacker)
