wife with bipolar

That's a bad combination, someone with anger issues and an unstable bipolar (or anyone else, for that matter). It definitely sounds like she is in need of some treatment. If you could get her to go to the hospital, that would be great. Also, you could use some therapy for the anger issues.

Until then, your relationship has little to no chance of surviving.

Paul

I don't think anyone would blame you for seeking a divorce. But only you can decided when you have reached that point. If you feel like you have given all you can, then you gotta do what you gotta do. Move back to Missouri, get away and take some time to think about it.

Your wife had to decide what she wants in life. If she wants to continue in a relationship with you, she needs to prove herself, get stabilized, earn back your trust. Only she can control that. Maybe she will, and maybe she won't. But it is pretty much out of your control.

I'm glad you are addressing your anger issues. Good for you.

Paul

Without meds and the willingness to kick her drug habit I am afraid my advice for you about your wife is to go to Missouri. If she gets help great. Some people have to hit rock bottom and lose everything they have in order to kick drugs. I can understand loving her. Eventually, though, the lying and drug addiction she has may kill any love you have for her.

Go on with your life, and make a happy future for yourself. There are some people who refuse help. Sad but, true. You can't make her bet better. She has to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. And she may never do that.

Take care of yourself...Shiva. She has made some bad choices and has to live with the consequenses...