daughter of a mother

She always used me as her therapist and her friend. But I wasn't I was her DAUGHTER. She didn't understand that concept and just assumed everyone was placed on this earth for her. I have recently had to make the decision to yet again cut her out of my life. This time I hope I can stick to my guns.

Got my fingers crossed.

What has your experience been like? I would love to hear someone else's story with living with a bipolar parent.

Be well

YOu might have to bite the bullet and start setting boundaries. Don't go anywhere with her, stop driving her around. I also have two children ages 17mts and 5yrs. I have been having to drive her car in order for my kids to get back and forth to school. And on the weekends I was taking her to do whatever she wanted to do,within reason. I also started having the same feelings. She ruined a night for herself,me and my daughter at the showing of Lion King the broadway show when it was in town. She yelled at every employee we encountered over something so little, and also made us leave early. My daughter cried all the way home, and I was filled with rage. I know no that isn't healthy for me. So I have had to start gaining the strength to set boundaries with her. She is now in rehab and will be gone for 30-90 days so I have awhile to do it (which I need). But when she gets back she will have her car back and the ability to embarass herself alone where ever she wants. Ok rambling............

Set boundaries and please seek some therapy of your own. My mother is my trigger. She sets off anxiety and sometimes mania in me. I have gotten some control over that now but only because of learning coping skills from my therapist.

Be well

When I began to read your post, I knew you'd find a sister in bpmomma.

I'm so glad you are here bpmomma! See how you mean so much to others just sharing experience and affirmation!

I hope you can find solace and some answers for one another here.

God Bless you both, you Dear Ladies.

MsBimbo

Hi - I'm the daughter of a bi-polar dad. He died a few months ago at age 76, never diagnosed, in complete denial is whole life, had 5 heart attacks, chain smoker for as long as I can remember (non-filter PalMal), alcoholic, lost all kidney function, had to be on dialysis 3 times a week for last 2 years of his life, aeortic aneurysm which he died from, lots of other medical problems, drs.said his body was a mine field.He was extremely rageful, could handle NO stress, had psychotic episodes. I think I was a target for him and I guess I pushed his buttons, because all I had to do was to act happy or talk about something good happening in my life and he would go after me with vengeance. I never knew what was wrong with him, but I knew it wasn't me. I never thought it was me, but it is finally good to know what was wrong with him. You are definitely not alone and it is definitely NOT YOUR FAULT. Hope this helps.