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LisaW64 Posts: 290
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So my husband has asked me for a divorce, and he has a girlfriend. He has been spending money like crazy on her, leaving me broke. Since I don't work, I get all my support from him. He has started giving me an allowance of $200 a week so that I can move out. Well, today I balanced our checkbook, and there is no money in it. He is going away with her for the weekend, and he had the nerve to ask me to give him some money so that he can play this weekend. Part of me wants to avoid the conflict, and give him some money, and part of me says no, don't give him money to be with the slut / home wrecker he is with. What do I do? Post edited by: LisaW64, at: 12/30/2009 01:32 PM Sertraline 400 mg
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MissStacey Posts: 14847
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Oh my I am so sorry for the situation you are in. I cant even begin to put myself in your shoes. My instinct tells me to take care of yourself first and do not give him the money! You need to think of you, like he is thinking of him. I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need someone to talk to I am always here for you. Hang in there. Big Hugs, Stacey  I suffer from Rapid Progressive MS, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Epilepsy, Migraines, Neuropathy, IBS, Narcolepsy, Arrythmia, Arthritis and too much more complete list on profile.
"Just because we have the right to disagree with a person, does NOT give us the right to disrespect that person."
I'm not currently active due to many personal and medical issues. I will not be participating in MDJ for awhile, my thoughts and prayers are with everyone. I hope everyone is well and I appreciate all of the thoughts, kind words and messages. I have tried to respond as much as possible and apologize if I have not gotten back to everyone. Love & Hugs, Stacey |
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YorkieLove Posts: 7028
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No, don't give him any money. Sorry in advance, but my first reaction is, "Is he insane?". I can't believe that he even asked you for money. How incredibly insensitive. Please do not blame his behavior on bipolar. I don't know if he is or you are, but bipolar comes with all of the flaws that a person would have if they weren't bipolar. Lisa
My advice is purely personal. I am not a Doctor and there is NO substitute for getting proper medical diagnosis and advice.
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LisaW64 Posts: 290
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I am the one who is bipolar. He can't stand it that I am "sick". I told him it was just like cancer, and wished cancer on his girlfriend so that he would leave her when the sickness happened to her. That pissed him off. I think I will give him $150 and tell him to have fun, and not to over draw the account. But then he will have to pay me interest. He doesn't like the interest I charge. LOL Sertraline 400 mg
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YorkieLove Posts: 7028
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You're a bigger woman than I am. I guess that since you are getting your income from him, you can afford to share. (((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))) Lisa
My advice is purely personal. I am not a Doctor and there is NO substitute for getting proper medical diagnosis and advice.
Bipolar II, Depressed Severe
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ForeverJaded Posts: 208
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I apologize also, but WTF? Asking you for money? That's like asking you to support him and give him permission to have an affair. That's pretty messed up on his part!!!!!! Don't give that may a dime! (Sorry to be so strong on this!) |
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HelpEr82 Posts: 993
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i would never give him money. i would be so outraged and mad. my ex husband left me for another woman almost 4 years ago when i was 8 months pregnant. with 3 other kids in the house. then i found out she was pregnant and toold them i'd give her a coat hanger abortion lol to each their own i guess Hope has two beautiful daughters. Their names are anger and courage; anger at the way things are, and courage to see that they do not remain the way they are.
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TexasYankee Posts: 4286
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If it were me, I sure as hell wouldn't give him the money. His choice, his problem. Sorry to hear that you are going through this. Like life isn't hard enough as is. {HUGS!} Blessings, strength and courage to all.
Angela
~"Faith makes things possible.....not easy!"
~ "How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively. " You have to want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."- Trina Paulus, Hope for the Flowers
~Have faith. Without faith there is no hope. Without hope there is nothing.
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MissStacey Posts: 14847
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I dont think you should give him anything but its your decision. I still think you should be thinking of yourself not him and his girlfriend for a weekend away to boot, oh my Lord! I suffer from Rapid Progressive MS, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Epilepsy, Migraines, Neuropathy, IBS, Narcolepsy, Arrythmia, Arthritis and too much more complete list on profile.
"Just because we have the right to disagree with a person, does NOT give us the right to disrespect that person."
I'm not currently active due to many personal and medical issues. I will not be participating in MDJ for awhile, my thoughts and prayers are with everyone. I hope everyone is well and I appreciate all of the thoughts, kind words and messages. I have tried to respond as much as possible and apologize if I have not gotten back to everyone. Love & Hugs, Stacey |
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pirateprincess421 Posts: 31179
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It's your money!!! You need it to get yourself an apt. Don't give him a cent. Princess Lainey
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