Bipolar Support Group

Hey guys my name is Clay, I am in a terrible low and I feel worthless. My parents and I just fought and as always my mother played the victim. She doesn’t understand the way my brain works and thinks that every time I forget something or am not paying attention I am being disrespectful.

To her I am her “favorite” mistake I am just a “screw up that will never do anything with his life” she neve3r tries to understand and it pisses me off. I have gotten to the point I hate her I absolutely hate her. God that sounds so horrid and a sin But I cant help it she has driven me too hating her. Can someone please give me advise for dealing with this please help me.

Hi Clay and welcome to MdJunction and to the bipolar group. Have you and your mom tried counseling. It can really help open up the doors to communication. Also, have you tried bringing her along to a doc appointment so she can get a better understanding of this illness.

I wish you the best and hang in there!

Welcome Clay. Growing up my mother always played the victum, she would put me in a position that my anger would lead to bad decisions. She would then use it against me. Back then it was never discussed that someone may have a mental illness. My anger back then was great. She was 330 lbs and she sat on me once I was pushing 80 lbs at the time, and I was totally able to throw her off of me. I tend to use anger now to keep people at bay and keep them from getting to know me. I have a slight problem with a Blond haired green eyed girl who got through my defences in no time.

As was mentioned before that as you get older you will heal and thing will get better between your parents and you. It is a good idea to take mom to a pdoc and a tdoc appointment, it will give her a chance to ask questions and get answers that may help her change her attitude towards you.

Do not give up and if you need someone to talk to April is a good listener and any of us will be more than willing to talk with you.

Clay, Everyone has given you very good ideas! My mother and I have never gotten along. Someone is always pushing someones buttons. That is just the way it is for us and maybe it will be for you. I have a 21yr old and a 17yr old and my relationship with my 21yr old is just now getting to the place where we are adults more than mother and son.BTW I am the BP one. Give it time and utilize all the advice given to you. You never know what the future holds.

Clay, I am here because I don't know what is happening in my head, I haven't been clinically diagnosed with BP but I find here people that sincerely understand what is happening to me. I only pray that my kids Don't see me as a victim. For alot of years and abusive relationships I saw myself as a helpless victim. I have a 26 year old son that has mood swings as bad as I do sometimes and I don't ever know which mood he is going to be in. He hasn't been diagnosed with anything. Maybe he has a happy/mad/sad thing going on like I do. When I gets angry at stuff I just have to go numb and not give him a angry response back. that is kind of my thing. JUST stay calm. don't get mad, just be mellow and not let anger affect me, try to understand where the other person is coming from blah blah blah,,,, This is my middle child in between 2 sisters one is 35 like a said and the other is 14. Economic times has brought us all together in a big house to try and make it together. Sometimes I just get so angry that I want to break windows. I was soooo mad at I don't know what that when the temp warmed up enough to make the snow here soft I went out and chucked snowballs at the street signs. Picture this, and have a laugh, A 52 yr old overweight happy person on the block in her jammies, chucking snowballs at the stopsign and balling big crocodile tears over life. I got a few strange looks from my neighbors, but the ones that matter gave me a wave and a thumbs up as they drove by. Funny thing is I didn't hurt anybody else or myself, I still had dishes and glasses and windows. I want to welcome you here and hope that you will feel better and some of what I said make sense to you.