Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

Post edited by: aerina5501, at: 06/10/2012 03:16 PM

I care, and so do all the others here. Bipolar is so incredibly stressful and hard to deal with for the significant others. This is a wonderful support group and we all understand what it is like. You need to know that This Is It. This is what you will deal with and go through for your entire relationship. The right Med combo can only help, never cure. They ALWAYS go back to "crazy". Its hard to be a part of, hard to watch. Its going to be scary sometimes, they will break your heart a million times. BUT, you must remember that it's beyond their control. They don't want to be that way but their brain has a malfunction. The best thing for me has been support groups and to realize I'm not alone in this. We all love our bipolar SO's. We love them through the manic, we love them through the rage, we love them when they can't get out of bed, we love them when they are delusional. YOU have to learn about this disease and learn how to cope. Its hard, but for me personally, its a thousand times worth it. I'm in love with the most interesting person I have ever met. My little polar bear, when stable, is funny and sweet and caring, and affectionate and appreciative and amazing. When she is not stable she is mean, rages, picks on me, picks fights that I can't possibly win, breaks up with me...and it hurts. But I always know it will end. If I can just hold on, if I continually remind myself that its Beyond Her Control, that this is an illness, I (we) get through it. You can learn how to take care of YOU. Keep coming back here, you are not alone. And if you CHOOSE to stay, because we all choose it, you have support.

aerina

i have walked this path with another.

i am concerned for your safety.

i understand , all of this.

this is more than bipolar disorder.

**No one will take me seriously they all just keep saying "if he was going to kill himself he wouldn't talk about it he would just do it, its a cry for help.**

This, is a myth.

The *girl in his head* is an alter personality.

Google these term

D.I.D.

M.P.D.

It will explain a few things.

Yet the fact remains, this young man could be very very dangerous.

The last time I heard someone such as this say , *I want you to kill me*

I was a victim of an attempted homicide

and had to identify one of my best friends in a body bag.

Please, believe me when I tell you

love this young man from a distance.

Dont trust his family, something happened there.

They will never tell you what it is, and if you continue to look and ask questions

your a** will be on the line.

I understand that you love this guy, but you gotta let this one go.

I wish, I had the words to make you run like hell

but I don't.

His family knows all about it, trust me..they know.

They are not giving you the whole story.

Stay busy, and please

stay away from him.

He is not safe.

we are here to support you in any decision that you make.

grandmathatknowsomeshit

Post edited by: livinginablender, at: 06/04/2012 06:13 AM

I agree with Living that you need to get away from this young man. You cannot fix another person. Only he can help himself and he's not doing that. The right medicines are crucial to achieving any kind of stability and he is not taking his.

You sound very mature for your age, but you are still very young and your boyfriend is younger still. Most 16 year olds lack the emotional maturity to handle something like a chronic mental illness.

Even if he's the most mature 16 year old on planet Earth, this young man needs way more help than you can give him. No matter how much you love him, it won't cure him or fix him. I have bipolar disorder myself, so I know what I am talking about.

No one can help me but me. I have to be completely responsible for my illness and I have to do everything in my power to be stable. That means seeing a psychiatrist, taking my meds and adjusting my lifestyle to accommodate my illness. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is willing to do any of those things.

I'm sorry to be so brutal, but that is my honest opinion.

Big hugs.

Please listen to us. You are not safe. You are to young to endure this. run far and fast. go to college out of town. Give no new number. you can not fix this or change this. it will ruin you. Please please please listen. We are the voice of wisdom,learned through years of pain. Do not be one of us.

Aerina: He sounds like he's had a psychotic break... He's either BP or Paranoid Schizophrenic.... Are you up for this? Why would you want to be?

Holly: I no longer love ANYONE that much anymore.