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sadsad

Post edited by: sadsadhubby, at: 04/23/2012 10:56 AM

Like all junkies, you cannot make intelligent decisions anymore because you are too busy supplying your addiction (and hers).

She needs to get off the self-medication roller coaster. That means she has to quit taking the pills off the street and start taking the pills her psychiatrist gives her. Whatever that takes. I can guarantee that her psychiatric medications will cost nowhere near as much as her drug habit does.

You need to get clean and stop supplying her with drugs to keep her happy. If you think of her "sweetness" as a drug, you can see that you are in the same position that she is in. Both of you are addicts seeking your next fix. Nothing is going to get better until that changes.

I know that getting off drugs is not easy, but if she's not willing to get off them, are you willing to be with and work hard to supply drugs to a drug addict for the rest of your life? Are you willing to be an addict for the rest of your life?

Tough love. It's not just for children.

Okay, I know I should treat new guests better....but this was so out of wack that I thought the original poster was playing a joke on us because I can't believe that this is rational behavior. I think both need counselling ASAP!

sadsad

Big hugs. I know it's tough, but you really do know what you need to do.

your motives

you don't want to loose her . you dont want her to leave YOU.

and yes

there are two sides to this coin

i understand

she on the other hand

is using you too.

this is called a using relationship.

this is what addicts do

they use

people

places

things.

There is no chance in hell for her recovery

or yours ,

until you both stop using.

It is possible

WE DO RECOVER.

It takes a decision

followed by willingness to stop the insane idea that you are helping her.

Here, I give you this suggestion...RUN to Alanon. Now, the willingness to do that has to come from you.

I know pain. I live with it every day, for the last 12 years.

I dont use

anyone to support me

emotionally

financially

psychically .

I want, in my life

what my creator intended me to have

I surrender, to what my Creator wants me to do.

To dominate

control

and manipulate another is not what love looks like.

Please know

that I am not busting your ass because I am better than you.

I am not.

I have been you on many levels

and that life

has been in my rear view mirror for decades.

Supporting someone in their addiction is not what I do.

I will promise you this

I will support you in your recovery.

Welcome to the group nobody joins on purpose.

xo xo xo xo

Post edited by: livinginablender, at: 04/23/2012 01:27 PM