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Living, he has exposed the kids to porn several times, has pushed me as I was trying to close a door in front of them and has destroyed multiple things and punches holes in walls to the point his knuckles bleed.

In my case, I don't think they would award supervised only visits because, other than being a jerk, he hasn't done anything to make a judge deem it neccessary. Being an @ssh#le is not grounds to request supervised only visitations. But he has drank and drove my kids around, took shrooms when they were in his care, smoked pot while they were in his care, and just been mean and hurtful. Of course the kids don't know this, he would deny it and so it is my word against his. He is never violent or threatening so no chance of getting a restraining order, but I see how unstable he is. I can feel the pent up rage inside him, see the darkness in him and worry that one day he will crack. I need to make sure they are safe, and I can't do that if he has them alone.

Zengirl, I think you could get a restraining order based on what you describe above.

Post edited by: bxrgrl, at: 07/08/2012 08:33 AM

Oh that's okay! There are things we have to experience in life that are not fun. My son has "recoverd". His biological dad fell off the face of the Earth when he entered kindergarten. There are effects that we has to love out of him and some that are still there. I think he's going to be alright. Shipping off r to the navy in Sept.

That's why this Site is so important. We need to support each other best we know how so the moms on here can make the safest, most healthy, and best decisions they can for the kids.

On the pot/mushroom thing; these are illegal drugs. You need to record/video this type of thing...I did.

As for exposing children to porn, this is called SEX OFFENDER

I cut my message off:

No judge in the world would think these were okay to do in front of children, you just have to get proof. Once you have that, it'll go your way. Hang in there all of you (us!).

Thanks everyone. I was right to worry and feel I am just in my demands. I told him I was pregnant today. He began yelling and left my son abruptly. Then I left the door unlocked, he barged in 20 minutes later with a pregnancy test and demand I take it, along with demanding more that I can't even type.

My poor little guy got in the middle of us to protect me and said daddy calm down. When he didn't and I was grabbing my purse and keys, my son calmly walked to my car, neither of us wearing shoes, opened the car door and climbed up into his car seat.

He yelled in the front yard that our son was a mistake. Ugh. His own mother and father gave us a place to stay until he left.

He has been texting and calling apologizing, even called his mom to tell me he apologized, saying he feels bad and nervous!

He just pushed the Momma Bear Button. No more, no contact!

PS, Bxer, you can get a refrain from for harassment, yelling etc. pretty easily. That means if he partakes in the harassing behavior, while still living together, he goes to jail, no questions asked.

As far as drinking and drug use, I got a full stay away from my second husband because he was drinking, violent and threatening to take the kids. They based a lot on what the kids said. They saw more that I realized.

PS His mom told me that his aunt is bi polar and schiztophrenic. Yeah, they both can have each other!

In CA pot is not illegal if you have your medical mj card, which he does. But you are right, I need to find a way to document the bs. He is sneaky....does not do stuff in front of them. I wish I had left four years ago when he was arrested. I could have gotten custody with supervised visitation then. Now a judge will look and see how he completed an inpatient drug program, figure it's all good and.where does that leave my kids? So for now I'm stuck.

Zengirl, sorry for alll you are going through. Take care of yourself and your kids!

Thank you B, you too. They can be sneaky for so long and I am finding that karma has a way of reaching up and biting you on the a$$. Document anyway you can. If he isn't stable, he is going to screw up eventually like my H did yesterday.