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I arranged to have the furniture store come and take my living room set and dining set back. I can't afford it anymore. Haven't been able to talk to my SO in three weeks. He won't answer when I call. This is so hard.

We were working on reconciliation. We made plans for me to come back to him. I wanted this. I knew that emotionally it would be tough but I keep getting screwed financially. I've always been a financially responsible person. I just couldn't handle watching my credit rating and finances get so screwed while he yelled at me about a cell phone bill.

The worst part is that he was right about the cell phone bill. It was too high and my daughter wasn't paying her share. Yesterday I asked my daughter for money for the bill and she said she would stop by with it. It's been two days now. I shut her phone off - blocked it - so she can only text me now.

So I've basically been put in the middle between these two manipulative people and I'm the one that got hurt the most. How does this happen? How did I end up getting treated so badly by two people that I have loved so much. It doesn't make sense to me. I thought I WAS setting healthy boundaries. I thought I WAS communicating. All I get is yelled at. It's almost like I'm the sick one. I have no confidence. I'm sad and depressed most of the time. I lost the man I love. I'm alone and islolated. Unemployed and scared that I won't be able to support myself until I find another job.

Big hugs, miranda17.

How old is your daughter?

My daughter is 21 now. She has been on my cell phone plan since she was in junior high. She went through a terrible depression after the suicide of one of her friends (who had called her the night before) and had issues with her own suicide attempt, drug use, and was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and OCD. I have spent years helping her to accept and manage her illnesses. We had a terrible falling out in 2008 and after three years of being alone I decided to move to another state to be with the man I loved. Thought I could finally have the love I wanted.

Within three months things got bad. He was either sleeping or angry. Finances were bad. None of the things we had planned were working out. My daughter came to visit for four days. Just her getting on a plane was a huge step. She was having a bad anxiety episode the first night she was there and he was awful the rest of the time she was there. After she left, he yelled at me again about the cell phone plan. Yelled at me when I was on the Basically nothing I did was good enough.

I was so alone, isolated and depressed. I had never felt that bad in my life. I couldn't tell if I was the sick one or he was. I just knew that when a person is struggling it is NOT OKAY to yell at them and make them feel worse.

It's really not ever okay to yell at someone, although we're all guilty of it at times. But you're right: it's not okay to make someone feel worse when they are struggling.

Can you set some kind of limit on your daughter's plan with the phone company so that she can't exceed a certain amount of minutes and texts? That might avoid some fights in the future. Just a thought.

I DID put a limit on her phone. I blocked it from all calls and texts except to me! That same day she stopped by with $60 for her cell phone bill! Sometimes I just get tired of asking for things and being ignored. Turning her phone off worked better. She didn't even turn her car engine off. Just stopped in, gave me the money and said she had to get ready for work. Kind of hurts to know that she has not time for me and I have to block her phone just to get her to pay for it.

I don't know why the people I love the most are treating me like I'm the bad person here. My sister said it's because I'm getting healthy and setting boundaries with people. That's great except I end up alone most of the time. How do you go from making one person your whole world to being alone - because you set a boundary with them and now they don't feel you are worth their time.