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waylon Posts: 22
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Howdy all...I am married to a bi-polar spouse, and all three of our children suffer from this in some degree. We are getting ready to take our 14 year old daughter to a mental hospital for a stay, and I am at my wits end with this disorder, and just joined today. I will post more in the near future, as I have a lot of stuff to get off my chest. I no of NO ONE here locally that has stayed with a bi-polar spouse very long, but I am approaching 24 years with mine...And, as much as I hate to say this...my life has been a nightmare...Thanks for listening, and I hope to pass on what I have learned, and endured, and hopefully learn some things myself...
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Silverlock Posts: 1816
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Looks like today is a good day to join.  Looking around the forums is helping me get some of my thoughts straight. Good luck! Mania Sucks!
Infidelity Sucks!
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sososad51  Posts: 1985
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Welcome to the group that noone wants to join! Keep posting! You are supported here! |
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waylon Posts: 22
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I found this online forum, as searching locally has been fruitless, and I am much better at writing down thoughts and retaining composure than talking out loud in front of people.(Probably my Southern West Virginia Twang, of which I am somewhat self conscious of.)We just placed our youngest daughter in a local Mental Health hospital. (She is 14, and has been diagnosed with BP) My frustration with this condition has maxed out, and I just needed to find someone to fuss about it with. If I discuss it with my wife, she has a tendency to believe I am blaming her, so I want to avoid that...I'll post more later...Thanks for the replies... Bless you all! |
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livinginablender Posts: 11289
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common waylon take a chair up here on the porch lets smoke drink dr pepper and talk about other people. what is said on the porch stays on the porch. common up and sit a spell. |
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waylon Posts: 22
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My youngest is in a local Mental Health Hospital, and I have to take some clothes and stuff to her this morning before returning to work. Just something else to worry about. My wife is starting, after a two day delay, the umpteenth new job in the last two years. (She has pretty much lost them all due to getting sick/depressed, and spending two/three days in bed. Which of course has been common in the last 24 years. I am so sick of fighting this curse from God....Sorry to rant..just extremely frustrated. |
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Catbaloo  Posts: 4705
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Welcome to the group waylon. No wonder you are frustrated: you have a lot on your plate. Feel free to vent all you like. It really helps to talk to people who understand exactly what you are going through. My dad is from West Virginia and I love that twang.  My opinions are just opinions, and should be taken as such. I am not an expert on medicines or BP disorder. |
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soundman Posts: 1
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"Welcome to the group that noone wants to join!" I've been reading this forum for a while now (BP recently ex-GF, due to physical abuse) and had to register just to say that that statement made me laugh out loud! It's very sad, but also very true. Reading about the experiences of others has been paramount to keeping my own sanity. I hope that it helps you, too, waylon. I wish to say a big 'thank you' to everyone here. Your honesty, experience and willingness to share helps more people than you may ever realize. |
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sifted Posts: 915
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"just extremely frustrated" I think that this is a good place to come and vent, don't hold it in waylon, it sounds like you need to let it out. Have a seat on the porch, open a doc Pepper, but I don't recommend you have a smoke, they are not good for you (I would love to quit). This disease is very frustrating.
"Satan has asked to sift you all as wheat. But I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers and sisters" |
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invisiblenyc Posts: 395
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Waylon & Soundman: Welcome to the group. I'm sorry for the pain that led the two of you here but I'm glad that you chose to seek comfort and support for that which burdens you. Waylon: My heart breaks hearing about your daughter. I wish her and you and the rest of your family the best. Please come here when you need to vent. There are some profoundly wise and loving people in this forum, people who share their stories and their strengths. I cannot tell you how much this site, this forum have done for my healing process. I have no doubt that in your time here you will have a healing experience that is similar to the one that I have had. I am sorry to hear that your wife cannot hear you express your burdens, your vulnerability without taking your words personally. I have been in a similar situation and it can be brutal when the person you trust, want to trust most in the world cannot help you to let your guard down in order to lessen the emotional burdens that one's life has placed upon them. You will find a lot of open ears and hearts in this forum. And twangs are a great thing (and that's coming from a native New Yorker). Twang away, my friend. Have a great day. Big hugs. Blender: I want to get up on that porch with you. Post edited by: invisiblenyc, at: 03/22/2012 12:37 PM "It is important that we remove toxic people from our lives even it is painful for us to do so. If we do not do so then the long-term negative impact of their presence in our lives is often worse than the short-term pain of cutting them out of our lives." - me
"He or she had these problems before you, while he or she was with you, and left untreated will have the problems after you are long gone." - Circles2007
""virtuous personality traits, such as loyalty, empathy and being non-judgemental towards others, can unintentionally act as as emotional "gate way drugs" to becoming co-dependent." - me
"We all have a little of something in us I think. The question is does it prevent you from functioning and leading a productive stable life...if the answer is yes...then your little something is actually a big something that needs to be addressed." - kalissalea
"It's a process, and some days will be easier than others. I can't be with someone who blames me for their behavior. It's too emotionally draining, and prevents us from having the close relationship I deeply want.' - kalissalea |
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