Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

Refer to my last post (long update) for the background information.

My now ex called me today. At first attacked me telling me I'm not good enough and shit like that. I told him to fuck off. He called back after him hanging up. His story changed. He told me I'm not what he needs etc at first... only to turn around and say that he cannot handle needing me and going to the military at the same time, so he cut ties with me.

Part of me is upset, hurt, depressed. Part of me is like, fine, don't let the door hit your fat ass. He has this two day a week training until July or August... when the real boot camp hits. Do any of you think he will last not speaking to me? His reason behind not wanting anything to do with me is because "he needs to do this on his own" and I'm getting in the way... Is he truly gone this time?

The real question is, would you ever want him back? If he came around again do you think you could forgive him and try again?

No way to tell what will happen, but if you can determine what you want, then it will be easier to decide if the time comes.

That is a good question. My friend said this is no different than the other times hes flown the coop. tonight I'm sitting down and making more rules to shove in his face. I had them before, but its time to make more. If he cannot accept them, its on him. I have needs too. It cant be all about him just because hes having an episode. I have been way too flexible and clearly did not have enough rules.

Great plan! You can set the ground rules now before any of the craziness can begin!

Its just so crazy how he can be so convincing. When he loves me and cannot be without me, he means it. When he says I'm a burden burden so good luck with your life, he means it. I swear he could convince me the sky is yellow and purple. Then he can act sk normal. But that never lasts... it just lasts long enough to make me wonder if hes ok... but then he snaps and it's like, "oh yeah... hes kinda crazy. I remember now." He had me convinced he could make it in boot camp.

RF I ALSO WAS TOLD "I want to do this on my own" FFS, does this shit ever end? Im so broken. My anger only comes out when Im typing. Oh and when I beat the shit out of him last week. I snapped, I didnt realize I was doing it until I was done. Snapped. They both need to crash. CRASH FUCKERS

I have intense bursts of anger, today I was screaming into the phone because I just could not take the manipulation anymore. I couldn't take the mind games anymore. I hate screaming. I don't raise my voice. I am a quiet and peaceful person. It takes a lot to make me snap. I think that is why I haven't given up on him yet... I fucking can take a lot of bullshit without snapping. I suppose this is the good thing about the boot camp. He will get his crazy ass kicked all over the place. He will get in fights. He will get beaten up there.

These people, they cannot finish anything right? He won't last in boot camp, right? I feel horrible, but I just can't bring myself to wish him the best if he is not with me. Part of me is thinking that's a horrible way to think... and the other part is like, well he promised a future. You were working towards that and he took it away... why should you wish him the best if he's not with you?

No, in all honesty, I cannot wish my husband well if he leaves for good. Im also very peaceful, Im Buddhist, I live by the golden rule, but he has pushed me past my breaking point. Even my MOM cant believe how much shit I have taken from him. If I will not have him, I hope he gets the bad kind of cooties, the kind w no cure that burn. Yep, scorned party of one. Scorned, party of one.

I wish my other ex the best in life. We had a not so nice breakup, but we were cool after a while. Then again, he never did any of what my current ex did.... nor was I ever going to marry him. I just want him to get his act together and become stable...

Today I screamed at him like there was no tomorrow. I told him he is 28 years old and he's acting like a 10 year old. He needs to grow the fuck up. He has accomplished NOTHING in his life because HE CAN'T with HOW HE IS. That it is NOT MY FAULT. It's HIS FAULT and he's a motherf*ckin coward and needs to man up and learn how to take responsibility. I told him I am 3 years younger and I am more accomplished than he is... and it doesn't bother me until he attacks me for not working. I am sorry, but neither is he and I am starting my own business. I am doing more than he is, so don't ever tell me I don't know anything. I finished my college degree. I have a business starting. What can he say he accomplished? How dare he tell me I am holding him back. How dare he treat me like shit. How dare he try to manipulate my words. How dare he... Did I hit below the belt? Perhaps. However, I only spoke the truth. He never speaks the truth when it comes to accusing me of shit. He makes shit up or manipulates the truth.

He told me to stop screaming or he will hang up. I told him what's the point in censoring since he "made his mind up and I will never convince him to change his mind." I told him he more than welcome to hang up, but I will f*cking say what I need to say. I will not protect him anymore.

they always seem to have one *normal*

to talk to.

when that person is replaced

he will stop talking to you.

boot camp will be good for him.

i love the idea of a Sargent yelling in this guys face

and he cant scream back at him.

lol

good to see you rain.

i have missed you.

xo xo xo