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Friday nightmy husband. Went out got drunk came home he seemed fine then a while later he turned manic. He then left after being mean. I locked doors. He sent text message to my brother he was going to kill me tonight. He came back broke down door I called 911 I am pregnant and have a 2 yr old child. They were here immediate. They got him on a Parole violation. Terroristic threats resisting arrest and burglary. Don't know what will happen to him. I am a mess not sure what to do. How pong he'll be in there. I'm very lonely. I don't know what to do. My brother Santa me to put restrain order on him and be done. Its just not that easy. I know he is ill. And needs help. He needs to be institutionalize not in jail.

Sweetmomma, he will not be harmed. He will be ok. You did the right thing. That is no way to live. It's abusive and the emotional scars will not just heal over, it takes years to mend from this stuff. Stay safe and peaceful.

I know that but he needs medical help. For his bp problem I can't help him anymore its just not enough

Sweet: What state are you in? Can you get him Baker-Acted? Can a Legal Aid attorney help you?

Pennsylvania and I don't know

Sweetmomma, he needs help that you can't give him. He needs professional help. You can't fix him.

Your first responsibility is to keep yourself and your children safe. You did the right thing. Now you can look into having him hospitalized. Going to legal aid is a great idea if you can't afford an attorney of your own.

That's what I want to happen. We are safe and now hopefully I can get him help he needs.

I'm sorry you are going thru this, it sounds like you have had an awful weekend to say the least. When is court, in the morning? Can you go and let the judge know he is sick? Of course he/she may not care..it's just a thought..you are right, he needs to be in a hospital, maybe some time in jail will help him to realize that? In the meantime I think Horse is right..check into these things in your area, google it, ask friends... On the other end of this, sick or not, he could be very dangerous and you shouldn't live with someone that will threaten to kill you,drunk, sick, whatever, that is abuse. Try to get him help, see if he will help himself. I think your brother is right, but I don't know you I'm only going by what I read, and yes I know it is not easy. I have been thru 2 retraining orders and dropped them later..it all depends on the person and if they want to get well, and sometimes I think they can't get well...but most can if they are committed to it. Is he on meds for his bipolar? If so, why is he drinking? This isn't showing committment to be well. Anyway, I feel for you sweetheart, keep us updated! BIG HUGS!!

Thank you. The first thing I will do in the morning is contact his PO and see what he says. Yes he is on medication but he doesn't take it as prescribed only when he remembers and the days he dont are the days he drinks. And on top of having bipolar he also is manic depressant. And an alcoholic. These mixed together are horrible. I've said I'm done so many times. But I always take him back. This isn't first time I've called cops on him. He's also suicidal so have called for that. And they put him in for cool down. This time was the worst. I keep running it over and over in my head and if had to do it again id do same thing or I should've just took our son and left. Whether or not he would hurt us I do not know and that was chance I was not going to take. Our safety was my concern not his. I know he needs help. At this point that's all I know. I do not know if there is a chance for us. Maybe if he gets well but at this point I cannot say. I am so glad I found this group. Without you id bday lost. Nobody understands.

Well its not looking good possibly 6 months maybe more