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11/06/2011 06:28 PM
marielynn
Posts: 176
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My husband left my kids and I at the end of July.

He was in extreme mania. I can accept him leaving

me, but why does he have to blow off my kids.

My 16 year old son is also bipolar and his whole

day is just messed up because his dad won't take

his calls.

We have been married 20 years and he has been

a part of their life and now just comes when

he wants to.

I am just so sad for my kids.

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11/06/2011 07:48 PM  Top
chelle005
chelle005Posts: 1921
Group Leader

I have a 23 month old and a 10 day old. We have not seen him in a family kind of way since Easter but very strained. I saw him in June in court for child support and no other contact since Aug 19 (meaning nasty e mails). I don't understand either.

11/07/2011 10:15 AM  Top
timeforme
timeformePosts: 565
Senior Member

Both of my kids had crying jags last night. My son (9) was upset that we would never be the perfect family again with mother and father living all together. My daughter (6) was crying that she wanted her father at bedtime. Both kids went to sleep in one of his shirts he left behind when he moved out. It just breaks my heart to watch it happen.
I am not a doctor and my opinion should only be regarded as such. I hope I can help others with my advice.

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11/07/2011 10:32 AM  Top
livinginablender
livinginablender
 
Posts: 11298
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MLynn

I am so sorry.

Same story here.

My Bipolar son

did not cope well at all with it.

He is still reaching out

and getting no response.

My other sons

want nothing to do with him.

It is so , so

very very

sad.

Please

get your son into clsg.

ASAP


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12/03/2011 09:12 PM  Top
hopes
 
Posts: 12
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More or less i am also in same boat. I feel very angry over that insensitivity of husbands. i cant understand ..what kind of disorder is this in which person becomes selfish, enjoys his life fully while leaving his family behind broken ..shattered . That disorder should be named as murderous disorder .

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12/04/2011 07:11 AM  Top
marielynn
Posts: 176
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I know I asked him if he could stay the night with my 16 year old son

and he said no I have to work late and work early in the morning so I can't. He said besides our son always goes out and doesn't even want to be with me anyways. Just another lie. He lied about the whole he didn't work late and didn't have to work early the next day. He won't do anything whatsoever to help me but wants me to help him make the appointment at friend of the court etc. Nope I am not doing it. Really pisses me off because I just paid our car insurance through January. He is just a selfcentered asshole and I am done doing anything to help him.

I was planning on inviting him for Christmas but no thanks I am moving on and not looking back. I don't need him in my life anymore.


12/05/2011 02:28 AM  Top
hopes
 
Posts: 12
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Merielynn .. i do understand . Its good that you are moving on . Be strong. You have to take care of kids too .They are most vulnerable at such time. With time, Your husband would realise what mistake he has committed . Celebrate Christmas in most beautiful way . Do something special which you have never done before . Cheers.

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12/05/2011 11:00 AM  Top
timeforme
timeformePosts: 565
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I am taking my kids on a road trip over the Xmas break without their father. It does not bother him in the slightest that we will not be around. I want to enjoy the holidays with my family and I don't want any chance of him ruining it.

It really gets to me some days that the father of my children is more content to run around like a college kid, but I am learning to accept this is the new life for the ex.

I am not a doctor and my opinion should only be regarded as such. I hope I can help others with my advice.

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12/05/2011 11:01 AM  Top
sadsadhubby
sadsadhubbyPosts: 589
Member

My son and wife were best of friends. When he was in hs they would wake up early and work out together. Then, bipolar came into our lives....she called him a f.... asshole one day when all he wanted was for her to pay for his college tuition since she had control of the account. Then she tooked his house keys away and not talked to each other in a year. Nothing we can do about it....the way he looks at it is the same way I do....we both had a death in the family. At least he is 22yo.

sadsad

Post edited by: sadsadhubby, at: 12/05/2011 12:18 PM

I just thought things would go back the way they were because I thought that there was still a wonderful person with a heart that still loved me.
---why we stay with them, thanks sososad51


My love for her is eternal...see you in heaven.
Well, maybe not...that was then and this is now. Not enough of me...so all my love to my son, self, and future "her".

I've moved on physically and mentally....but my heart does'nt want to come along for the ride.
...thanks DrDiva

I have always been able to fix things....I can't "fix" this.
....Thanks, Southerskies

Stop living in hope....move on.

This disease changes our loved ones into becoming the monsters we never knew existed.

I have learned to mourn the Death of a Living person....for the one I loved 'died' years ago.
thanks, Crushedheart

We Will Never Forget...that they are the crazy ones not us!

12/05/2011 04:17 PM  Top
bailey19
bailey19
 
Posts: 493
Member

All my husband does care about are the kids.....HIS kids, that is. 3 of them aren't too bad, but the youngest (23) one is bipolar and a real pain in the a$$. My husband has shelled out so much money to him over the 7 years that I've been around that he almost has him broke. I DREAD CHRISTMAS!!! Wish we could skip it.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.

No need to drive me crazy, I'm within walking distance.

Never Make Someone A Priority In Your Life... When You Remain An Option In Theirs
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