Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

Update, well he is still manic,has never seen the baby and has been dating a woman since Sept. She thinks she knows him, can tell when he lies, its been a whole six months and they are getting married. it is true love.It is April hahahahahah. if you have been manic as hell for a year and spring triggers you, where do you go from there

Have fun ya bimbo.See how well you really know him. You think you got a winner.he is a deadbeat dad. HE WAS HAVING SEX WITH YOU WHILE I WAS PREGNANT. HE IS MENTALLY ILL, WHAT IS YOUR EXCUSE,JUST A DESPERATE TRAMP. He did not even tell you about his kids.Shows how much he thinks of you and honesty in a relationship. But you love him.... You are his manic fling. When he crashes and he will, he will come home running to his family and he will not even remember your name,but do not worry, I do not want his lying cheating drunk ass. he is yours. All i want is half his check every month. hope you enjoyed the manic spending those days are gone. Did you know he has not payed his mortgage in months.Goodbye pretty little house he can not afford,good bye paycheck, YOU won the booby prize.(and a nice italian hand gesture to go with it)

Chelle,

I used to be on this site a few months back and was following your story. So, by now you of course have had the baby...what did you have? Did you get to go back to your family? Are you working? I read your update above, but not sure of everything. I hope you're doing well. I have thought about you and the others many times.

welcome back tracymamma! i had a little boy. he is the sweetest baby ever. His father still is manic and blah blahblah. You know how it goes. he will not sign the custody papers yet.I sent another set out a few weeks ago. His flavor of the month will not "allow him to see his children'. I hope she will see them and push the issue. I think he will not sign them so when he is ready he will have a way to try to get back in. with no rights he knows i will never have to speak to him again.

how have you been, what is new with you WE HAVE MISSED YOU

Congratulations on your baby boy!!! How do you stay so strong? I wish I had your strength. The last few days have been very difficult for me? Or weeks, or months, lol. I was once this very happy woman and then one day life just popped out of the ground and slapped me. H was diagnosed BP back in 2000 and I forgave him of his affairs, he got medicated, blah, blah, blah. We moved two states away after he lost his job and then he stopped taking meds. Things were okay for awhile then in 2007 I found out he had another affair (3 years long) and begged to be forgiven. Me, being weak, I said I would forgive, but really I guess I never did. Last summer he started cycling again and then he wanted to move out, then he didn't want to. He was basically fence sitting, so I pressed the issue, because I was tired of living in limbo. when he moved out, I did some investigating and learned he was seeing OW again for the last 1 1/2 years. At the time he moved out they had stopped seeing each other bc she broke up with him bc he wouldn't leave me. By the time he moved out, she found someone else and now he is on dating sites. At any rate, I moved forward with divorce even though he begged me not to. I ended up moving back to our home town and live in a rental house. My kids are in college in the state I left and one will be moving here when she graduates. I once lived in a beautiful house with my beautiful family and now I live in a tiny rental with my dog. I have never had depression issues but now feel I cannot function. I have a great family, great friends and even though I wasn't looking to meet any man... my best friend introduced me to a friend of hers and we hit it off. He is awesome and I appreciate him so much. He is very patient with me and is normal. My friend has known him for five years. At any rate, I know I need to get out of this funk and get a job. I hope I get through this depression quickly. I would love to feel normal again after the last nine months!!!

Aren't you glad you asked how I was doing? LOL. Are you working? Did you get to move back to where your family lives?

no job. day care would cost more then i would make. just living the frugal life style. my 9 year old said i should get a job so i could buy real sodas,not generic.lol

Still stuck here. if i leave the state it would be considered kidnapping.

I am so glad you are out of there.. What a cheating jerk.

Thanks, me too. I just can't wait for DD to move here and to find a job. I want to buy a house sooner rather than later.

I mean for me to find a job, not DD.

Chelle my heart goes out to you. I can relate in that my husband went manic when I was pregnant 7 years ago. It was the hardest time of my life, even this current mania doesn't compare. I honestly thought I would die in childbirth and I lost a ton of weight during the pregnancy. It is never easy to go through these bipolar episodes and it's especially hard when you are carrying precious cargo. I am so sorry you are going through this. I also know what it's like to move to a new place and have my husband go manic on me. I had no support or family there either. I packed up and got the heck out of there. I know you don't have that option but you do have the option of leaving temporarily, like a "vacation." As long as you have a return flight or bus ticket he cannot say you kidnapped them. I would suggest you take some "family visits" over the next few months. You need all the support you can get. And then hire a kick ass attorney, even if you have to go to legal aide! They should be able to help you fight your husband with custody and the right to move out of state if there are grounds for you to go. I also want to warn you that it doesn't always get easier when the baby is born so prepare yourself for any overflow of emotions as your body goes through the post-partum changes. I hope everything works out for you.

Chelle... What a story. Hang in there I guess things get better but I would not know at this time. I am hoping. Some of the things you said in your posts really struck a chord with me.

Don't forget, a symptom of BP mania is narcissism > I have been accused of being a narcissist since a few years after we met, also a sociopath. I researched the symptoms and thought it sounded more like my spouse.

Your algebra analogy is excellent. However I actually understand algebra still cannot understand Bipolar except I have come to the conclusion that the problems remain the same the formulas or solutions are the things that always change so you never know what is going on.

If he is getting remarried that quickly then good for you. I have struggled with the idea of this as I get older as I am going through a similar issue with mine and can easily see hearing they want to be married soon. Problem is we still have a divorce that I cannot get her to address. My struggle is I could not at any point move that quickly in a relationship at this age. I would need a great deal of time to build trust and forget old patterns of behavior. Emotionally letting go would have to be a process because I am scared of finding the same thing and would not want to bring an innocent person into the hell that is my world.

I hopefully have reached the end of my rope and am finally getting ready to move on. At least that is what I am trying to do. I have my child but there is no true custody agreement and they are already a teenager so they have the right to express their desires in court so won't have much of an issue.

Your story is very disturbing. The lack of financial responsibility also rings true in my situation. I am hoping that the future holds much better things for your life. I am sure it will with everything you are having to deal with.