Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

I'm home. It's a strange place, but it is home. My room, my stuff, my flower beds, my BP husband. He is down today, I am in a fabulous mood. I don't let him bring me down. He goes to bed. I am glad. The step-son lost his job....somehow my husband found a way to blame himself. He will probably be living with us again soon. I didn't say a word. I want no part of it. It isn't about me. It is about the two of them swimming in their BP puddle...around and around and around. I hope neither of them drown. I will throw them a rope, but I will tie it to a tree and let them pull themselves out, I am not going to be pulled in with them. I found a nearby university where I can finish my BSW degree online. I am going to take care of me now. I realized in the 8 weeks that I was gone that I like me. Go me!

I also like this support group....very much. I've learned a wealth of information here. I found it just in time.

Post edited by: bailey19, at: 08/12/2011 06:39 PM

yay Bay! good for you starting school and taking care of you! I feel the same..this group is the best!

That's good to hear Bailey!! You've come a long way,, baby! LOL.... I'm glad this group has helped u thru... I agree it doe the same for me. Keep that attitude girl - you're doin great

My husband and I went to his nephew's wedding today. When we got to the reception, I was watching the new couple and how happy they were and I couldn't help but wonder if the BP had passed into this boy as well. I started to really feel for his new wife and then sat and looked at my husband for a bit. All of a sudden tears came to my eyes and there was no holding it back. I went to the bathroom and just cried. Then I sucked it up and went on. I had to giggle a little afterward because I wondered if I had just had my own little BP episode. Going from peaceful to crying in the bathroom to giggling. Oh crap, it's contagious!

Bailey,, I know the feeling!! If not for my meds... what would I be like??? I haven't had an out of control crying session in a while - but I think a wedding would do the same to me!! One day at a time I hope they have a smooth marriage...

Congratulations on going back to school, Bailey. Most of all, congrats on finding out that you like yourself. I like you, too.

God bless our medications and the pharma companies who spend the billions of dollars it takes to bring them to market.

My meds have changed my life and I am grateful every day for them.

Aren't we lucky to live now instead of 50 years ago? Our meds may be expensive, but at least they exist now.

Well, he just stormed out of the house without telling me goodbye or giving the obligatory kiss, headed to work. He asked me if I would call in a day off for him so he didn't have to go in and I told him "No, you are supposed to go to work everyday and will get fired if you don't". He asked several more times and I kept telling him no. I even offered to bring him the phone so he could do it himself, but he wouldn't. All of a sudden he "only had 10 minutes to get ready and don't you ever ask me to do anything for you". I didn't say a word. Hope he has a good night.

(Like it does any good to ask him to do anything for me anyway.)

Home again, home again, jiggety jig.

Post edited by: bailey19, at: 08/14/2011 07:05 PM

Post edited by: bailey19, at: 08/14/2011 07:25 PM

Is he having a bad day, apparently? Going thru the same here... I don't have the energy to keep trying to encourage him!! They need to take up the baton,, and do something... (((bailey))) enjoy the peace....

It didn't even phase me this time BTM. He will be over it by morning and if he mentions it again, I will remind him that I asked him to help me move my stuff back home and he said he couldn't because he couldn't face my mom (which is where my stuff is). I will also remind him that he spilled watermelon juice all over the kitchen cabinet and down into the floor today and left it for me to find and clean up later. No more enabling here. I am in the process of making some changes in and for myself and he is going to find himself without me permanently if he hasn't gotten some help by the time I'm finished.

(((bailey))) we are in the boat together sister.. I'm to the point that J has to help - I can't keep enabling and covering for him all the time anymore. Just don't have it in me,, and I don't thnk that's right anyhow - they need to be responsible for themselves too. Gotta be tough...