Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

My husband was diagnosed with beeing bipolar 5 weeks ago and started Lamictal. He says he feels better and sees things differntly. Now he wants to go drinking all the time. Last weekend he told me he don't love me and wants a divorce. We've been married 16 years and last weekend was the first time he didn't come home. He slept on his buddies couch. Has anyone else dealt with this. The Medication made him feel so good he's ready to start the party lifestyle. Don't know what to do.

I'm no doctor, but it sounds like the Lamictal may be making him manic. Have you talked to his doctor and/or psychiatrist about this?

No, He doesn't want to cause he feels better then he has in a long time. He thinks he is better and is happier going out then spending time with us. I told him somthing wasn't right but he didn't want me to call his Dr. when I asked if I could.

Lamictal is a good drug, but it also has a pretty high anti-depressant property to it. How much is he on?

I agree with Cat, sounds like he's maybe a bit manic.

Can YOU call his doc, even if he doesn't want you to?

Have you changed the locks?????

And have you read the 'Rules'?:

http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/bipolar-spouses- discussions/general-support/2729144-warhorses-top-10-rules

Just read the Rules. Didn't before. I'm new at this. We are new at this. I guess I never thought of going to the Dr. with him. We've struggled through so much before we knew what was wrong always just thought it was depresion. Right now he is determined to leave me but has agreed to spend tomorow talking and spending the day together so I will have to talk to him about going to the Dr. with him. As for changing the locks, can't realy do that he owns the house too. And this last weekend was the first time he pulled that crap. We won't be together long by my choice if he pulls that again. I can't handle that stress. Rule #4 realy jumped out at me. Is there a reason they ruuin special days like that. I've recognized long ago when ever anything special was going on it go ruined.

Many of us bipolar folks don't handle stress well and we get overstimulated by noise and people, which makes us hyper and/or irritable. That makes a lot of us disasters on holidays and special occasions.

The right meds help a lot, though.

Don't handle stress well myself without the bipolar so I guess it makes sence. Going on vacation is usualy hard

No disses on you, Cat.... Thank you for telling the truth. I've had WAY too many Christmases ruined. Now I don't even care any more....

Going on vacation????? Ummmmmm, noooooo. We don't do that anymore.

I think there's an entire thread somewhere on here about our BPSs telling us they love us/don't love us when unmedicated. Either way, isn't 5 weeks too short to really bring someone to stable? And shouldn't he be on a mood stabilizer, too?

Glad you joined the group, it's really helpful to vent to people dealing with similar situations.