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He called and I asked for some money and he wouldn't answer me he said I have to come home and talk about it first, and I said why and he said I don't want to talk about it over the phone just come home first so we can talk about some things. I bet he's going to gripe about the house not being clean and try to make me work for it. He's such an asshole!!

Don't you work maggie?? Seems like you have a right to some money?? My husband controls the purse strings too... but he does offer cash at times, or if I need any he usually gives me some. If he offers it,, I NEVER turn it down in fact i stash it too.. emergency cash.

We share bank accounts and everything.

My husband lives in a different world than normal folks. He doesn't put his money in the bank and we don't just share, years ago , I found it necessary to split the bills and they are still pretty even aside from school tuition and food and well all neccessities, he just thinks thats all he has to pay for. He's such a horder and selfish when it comes to money. Anything else he's not like that. It's partially my fault for allowing him to do that and insisting the girls go to pvt school, but I had money before I had a second child which by the way was planned and discussed at least once that he would have to help, but he never did , he never bought one thing of diapers not ever. He never bought a high chair or a swing or any baby stuff ever for either child never helped at all with any of that. He has bought us a sofa and one of the kids furniture and some pictures for the house and of course he buys crap for out doors all the time and he fixes the driveway with new gravel and put french drains in and lawn sprinklers (since thats what he does) he built a deck and he still wants a f******g cookie for stuff like that he did 5 years ago. I can't imagine what he wants to "talk about" probably the grill and umbrella and chairs he just bought and what have I bought for the house? what have I contributed? I can't even keep the house clean. I'm just guessing I hate this pit in my stomach. UGH!!

I think that would be complicated keeping the money separate... I have brought that up when SO has gotten "tight", I work too, I should be able to buy (whatever) but then he says okay we will keep our money separate... (he makes more than me) so I dropped it... it can be an issue here too. I have just lowered my expectations and wants, then I don't get so upset. i hope it goes well tonight.. sorry you are worried.. let us know what happens. HUG

Okay, here I go!! Talk to ya'll tomorrow!!

Good luck!!!