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so you do think there is something to do with his major confusion. His behavior is not typical. Usually he would be contacting me more. (I have blocked everything, but...)

It does seem odd. I don't know of any straight man that would ever put up a profile on something like that. (On it, it said his orientation was "straight")

I have let him go- just trying to find answers.

It does sound odd,, it is odd. Maybe time will tell. I think he sounds confused about it all right now, yes, and he is trying to figure out what he wants,, however bizarre it sounds... just know it isn't you,, this is something within himself alone. He may blame you (very common for them to do) but don't take it,, you didn't do anything, it was his choice to go. He does sound very confused.

Post edited by: behindthemask, at: 06/13/2011 07:27 PM

Sometimes there just aren't any answers. He may not even understand why he did it, so you sure can't.

You just have to accept that he's gone and move on. Learn all the lessons you can from it and then draw a line under this relationship. You'll find a nice man who isn't into transexual porn. It would be very unlikely to meet another one, I would think.

Seriously, honey, you have to let this go. You aren't going to ever get the answers you need, so you just have to accept that and move on. Find a nice, sane, straight man and have a happy life. You know the red flags to watch out for now, so you should do much better picking a guy next time, right?

Big hugs. I know you're hurting and confused.

sad

my husband did the same thing..only difference was it was swinger websites and on his profile he put "bi" curious.. he went into a rage when I confronted him. He denied it at first even but then he knew he had no choice to admit it..then he blamed me..said he just did it to get back at me..give me a break! he never would admit he had any interest in other men..but I know better..yes it may be part of his bi polar..I certainly don't think he is gay..but I think he is extremely interested in anything kinky. Later he cheated..(which was more recent) I found out a bout it, it was a girl, but I also heard he was looking for men at this same time..this happened while we were split up. I found out when we were back together and I made him leave. this was 4 months ago. Does he have these interests while stable? I don't know...maybe, maybe not..

I have to add also that my psychologist felt it was an impulse control/hypersexuality issue. My friends think he was messing around, too. But regardless, its very disturbing,

There is no good answer to why someone who is manic does anything they do. There's no way to understand it, because the things that are done in a mania are simply NOT rational.

Taylynn,

Thanks for your honest reply. Its so scary to think we know someone so well, so intimately, but really there are so many things we don't.

I do think he knows the truth deep down. That's why it ended. I'm glad it did when it did.

Oh God, how am I ever going to trust another man again????? How will I ever know what is real????

sad, take your time,, let yourself heal. I have grown so much since then,, you will grow from this but don't rush into another relationship,, just focus on you and your goals for now, okay? HUGS

I know Sad, I feel the same way..I do know I will be much smarter if there EVER is a next man..but I don't know if there ever will be.