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So I did that once. Actually I didn't have the heart, but I told a girlfriend of my step son, who lived with us, to call if things got worse. It did, and she did. My wife is so good at the victim part, the police took me outside and threatened to take me in. This is while behind them in the front yard and in the rain, all of my belongings sat out in the front yard. They ended up leaving peacefully, and as they back out of the driveway, had the nerve to say "Good Luck" while they drove away. What can they do? All it did for me was positively encourage her negative behavior. Ever since that incident she has referred to it as " See you called them and they said you were wrong. I'm not the one with a problem. You just like to tell everyone I'm crazy!". After they left it catapulted her into such mania, that I'm still dealing with the consequences. I'm not trying to say that it was wrong, but how is this avoided?

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Hi, I'm new here, but I wanted to say it IS against the law in Arizona to break anything, even your own stuff. I have to be careful never to get upset and let go and throw anything breakable because he'll call the cops on me and have me arrested if he can....although I've called them when he was running around the apartment building hallucinating, with a butcher knife and they did NOTHING!

Wow! I have had similar situations where I live, too. I don't know how long you have been in the relationship or much about your situation so I won't try and offer anything but support. I will say that I have learned to keep as much space between him and me during a manic phase. Over the years I have set up safety nets, ie, bank accounts that can safely store our money until itnis over with a quick login and push of the button. This may nor be your situation, bit I have always had control of the financial aspect so as long as it wasn't glaring it did not catch too much attention. I am only saying to find yourself a safe place. I used to fight him leaving. Once he had a safe place to go and I knew I could "budget in" a little impulsive spree, I started to relax and take advantage of the space. The bottom line is you cannot control another person. We cannot make them stay or make them love us enough to stop hurting us. They cannot be the keeper of our hearts because with BP or not, they are only men. After 11 long years we are learning the benefits of Medication. I have stopped trying to cover up everything but also have stopped panicking and crying to anyone who will listen to me. One huge key was to not respond to the projection of guilt to me. I knew I wasn't the problem. I knew HE wasn't the problem. brain disfunction with environmental stressors IS the problem. I had to finally stop letting myself get dragged into the production of the mania. And is a daily work. Remember the Lords prayer even says ,Give us THIS DAY...". So I pray you are safe. I pray he is safe and you can rest. I pray we both can wake up tomorrow and not squander the day trying to fix it this ultra complex illness. Prayer and submission to God and not to the illness has brought me the distance. I prayed earnestly for wisdom and God showed me things about "Me" that would make a difference. Btw...when this current crisis is quelled, I intend on looking into what I can do to cause awareness because people like you and I will not call for help because we won't trust the responders. I wonder how many times this happens? Peace to you tonight...mercy to you in the morning.

I think this kind of incident is bound to happen if my husband doesnt get help, hes nearly been there already as it is. Why should i wait until it gets to that point? the kids sure as h--- dont want to wait for it to happen.

Dianac, you are thinking clearly. Why SHOULD you wait if your children are suffering.

My fervent wish is that every spouse has NO reason to call 911 ever. But this disease is very pernicious, if untreated and unacknowledged.

Yikes Blender and Sally, you gave me a good laugh!

My guy threatened suicide frequently in the beginning "If you leave me, I'll kill myself!!" My counselor recommended I ask how he intended to do it, did he have a plan and if I had any doubts, then let him know it was time to call 911 and let the professionals handle it. The first time I did that was the last time he threatened suicide.