Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

Most of my stuff packed...half of it already moved...and I find out tonight it is ALL my fault. So he says anyway. I told him I expected that because he always tries to blame me. He says I don't do this and I don't do that and he has to do everything....I told him that my not being here will not effect him too much then. I told him I would be completely done with the move by the end of the week and to call me in two weeks. I am amazed at how he twists conversations around...it is harder than talking to my drunk x-husband was. I waited 18 years to remarry...how in the world did I end up here? I was so close to God and filled with peace when we met...I thought he was too. I believe he was just putting on a show and thought I'd be a good submissive type woman that would take care of everything for him so he could put his head in the sand. Could have been if I'd gotten the Godly husband I thought I was getting. Instead, I got stressed out and honked off. I'm going to go find God again...no one is worth going to hell over.

I'm sorry Bailey.

My husband has the exact same attitude and yes I had no idea either when I married him.

For goodness sake mine was even working a summer job at a Christian camp.

I did overlook the fact that every time they had to clean he complained and hid out and tried to get by without doing his part-boy has that been our life.

And yeah it's all my fault too.

I must have missed the fact that you were leaving.

I was a bit surprised to read your post.

I do think you'll have better luck with God.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you're doing.

I have only been a member here for 2 or 3 weeks and I think I started packing after the first day of reading posts. I can't continue to live like this and from what I read, it will continue and not get better as I hoped. It's a shame...he is a good person..just really, really getting on my last nerve...lol. I dread the sadness that I know will come once I am gone, but I'm not the blue bird of happiness now.

Oh Bailey You are a strong woman and God is with you. He will walk you through this fire and you will come out unharmed and closer to him.

Your husband is sick and without treatment he will get worse, Its sad his illness keeps him from seeking help.

You may never see improvment in him or this could be the big slap in the face he needs to get treatment, ether way you are doing the right thing and taking care for yourself.

I'm proud of you...and you will be filled with that peace again I know that forsure.

Thourgh pain we find purpose.

I know after what I've gone through with my BPSO I am closer to God, my Joy is renewed.

I'll be waiting for your praise report...until then we are always here to wipe your tears.

bailey

I am sorry that you were verbally abused.

It is not your fault.

You are not deserving of this.

Daughter of Zion

Stay strong.

Your Father

Owns a thousand cattle on a hill.

Bailey

I too,met my husband in church. I thought I was getting a Godly man. Maybe he is..maybe it's the disease..I don't know.. parts of the disease are obvious..we hear this all the time, but I think we are talking about the same man? my goodness, twisted words, blame, it's all me..I'm a sinner I know, but Lord I tried so hard in this marriage..and I lost myself and my joy. I too, was so close to God when I met him. I tend to get closer to God when we are not together. My bps is harder to talk to then anyone I have ever talked to on this earth. More so than a child. Don't feel bad Bailey, we are just passing thru this world anyway, it't not our permanent home.

lot's of love to you!!!

I thought God would heal him and his troubled mind. It hasn't happened. I think I lost hope in it. Not blaming God though...he isn't seeking God. I have never seen one person so surrounded by turmoil, chaos, dysfunction and stress as this man. I hate it for him, but going through it with him has taken me and my joy, just as taylynn said. Then on top of it, he is never satisfied with anything I do, everything is my fault, there is no affection or attention for me, I don't do enough. I have tried my best, but had begun to believe it was mostly my fault until I came on here and see that everyone is telling basically the same story. It's BP and it's ugly and it doesn't go away.

Let us know how it goes - maybe this will make him want to pursue treatment if he doesn't want you to go.

Otherwise, enjoy your freedom my friend - spread those wings - and never forget the red flags for future reference...

xoxo

Bailey: God can't heal this... only meds can. And if he won't agree to get help, there is NOTHING you can do to fix it.

God

created free will.

He will let us use it any time we choose to.

Abuse is not of God.

That is not team Jesus.