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i gotta get my ducks in a row

#1 I gotta get help now for this weight issue-I think when that is resolved my heart issues will too so long as I haven't damaged it

#2 my goal would be to be strong enough by september to handle things on my own so the kids can go to their school-my parents live in a different school district

The stuff coming out of his mouth is just horrible.

It's all at me-blaming me for not being a good enough wife.

Not wanting to be intimate with him on and on.

He says he just plays the lottery so he can buy a bigger house for him and the kids and as a matter if fact he needs a different wife cause I do nothing for him.

He doesn't seem happy in any part of his life not even work.

He says he's thinking about quitting his job.

He is not going to add onto the house is simply staying here to get it paid off and to pay off his credit cards and probably what everyone else says-so he doesn't have to pay child support.

He said some really nasty things denies that I am ever nice to him-blah-it's all bs coming from a very selfish person who is just too far gone in the head.

He is out there.

His behavior this weekend was demonstrative if everything that came flowing out of his mouth.

I feel nothing regarding it-just matter of fact.

No real pain or remorse-he just said enough that those words are grounds enough for leaving him.

I'll just do what I have to do here.

I don't think I'm going to say anything to his mom about what I'm thinking, not tip her off because she might tell him.

...mine left once because 'the person I'm with has to be willing to try anything and everything in bed'....

Most important thing is you right now...your gorgeous kids really need you...

One thing I figured out a long time ago is words hurt far worse than anyone thinks. The sticks and stone thing is the bigges BS I have ever heard. The things my husbands says to me can beat me down emotionally just as bad as someone beating you physically.

I feel for you. I thought I it was bad for it to happen to me once or twice a week, I couldn't imagine every day.

Well I did call his mom didn't tell her any plans but she pissed me off as usual by saying we both deserve better.

I told her that was a slap in the face-she said well she wants her son to be happy.

I told her I wished him the best of luck then to find someone that can do that for him.

She said she wished it could happen now-for him to just call her happy and have a normal conversation. She said he calls her and she tries to reason with him and he often hangs up on her.

You know the psychologist we saw was right.

He warned us that people in these situations just have enough one day and leave.

I'm gonna play it cool here.

Might be going to my mom's to stay to get help with the kids.

As tempting as it is if he continues the trash talk I'm not saying a word.

I'm thinking more like when I start feeling a bit better get some bills taken care of and I am home, to just one of these times he starts in just tell him to go ahead and move out-get an apartment and we'll decide from there whether we're getting separated or divorced whichever.

Is he following histreatment at all Damsel?? That is so true - after a pont we just CANNOT take it anymore - that was the point I got to. If he isso unhappy, maybe that would be best, tell him to go - if you can keep the kids and house - bc you have done nothing wrong... Unless you want a new place. He would/should pay child support - and really after he leaves, he may go hog wild crazy and get in trouble - and you don't need that - if he is hell bent on self destruction, there is nothing you can do, but get out of the way for your own sanity.

If mine would have been willing to go I would have let him, believe me, in my case, he won't go! And won't let me go - so we are trying to work this thing, tho at times I am really sad and want more out of the relationship, more than is probably possible. But if he wants me and isn't abusive, I will stay... he would fight for everything, it wouldn't be that simple inmy case. But if he's willing to leave it all - jeez that may be a blessing in the end. My oldest especially has been hurt by the years of this illness I believe - I know it can be inherited, but environmental factors have a lot to do with it too.

Love you and my prayers are with you - be strong girl, you are!

It may be good for him to go before more damage is done in your family - which I pray has not happened yet

Sounds like a plan - call him on the threats Damsel,,, if he brings up that threat, follow it up - see what happens - "go ahead and leave if you are so unhappy, pack your bags and call before you come back, if you do". He needs to know, you have had enough and mean busness, if he is ever gonna stop the verbal assaults on you!

There are people out there that can treat you better. I hope the best for you... xoxo

I'm thinking right now-have him move out get his own place and go for separation/child support. Let him go find his happiness.

I just gotta get strong enough to do this on my own.

I feel pretty good today.

Motivated of all things-what is up with me I'm so weak I can't get up without my heart flopping like a fish but I'm ready for a new life.

Maybe I have gone crazy.