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My husband has always had a couple of days of being pretty decent before he went back into hypomania. Lately, he just jumps right back into the mania and I don't see him for about 5 days and nights until he crashes on the couch for a week. Granted he's only out in the garage working on his computers, but I literally don't see him.

He is so down right now, he said he's ready to give up. Give up what? School? Marraige, Life? He hasn't been to his classes for two weeks. (just got out of the hospital for lyphitis- a result of his hypomanic marathon on his feet) He's just reacting to me. I just came home from a needed break from him, and of course, he leaves me a big mess. I wish I could deal with this better and just keep quiet about the same old shit different day! I told him all he needs to do is graduate...go to classes, do his work and GRADUATE! He's crying right now and I feel terrible. But then, I usually do.

I don't know what other people deal with as far as frequency of cycling, but I get about 2 manias and 1 or sometimes 2 depressives per month. How do your bpso's cycle? I know its's different for everyone, various times of the year, around holidays, etc. But in general, just wondered how the rest of the bp world lives.

I'm sorry wife.

That has to be very difficult for both of you.

Wife, I know this must be difficult. My hubby used to cycle every 3 weeks. It was almost like clockwork. (before meds) So, he would go manic, pick a fight, take off and within 3-5 days he'd come home in a full on depression. Then he'd get back to normal and that would last about 2 weeks. He was fairly predictable in his pattern. Although, I'd have to say that we went for a LONG time (maybe a year or more) with almost no episodes at all. I think it depends and can change. But, meds sure made a difference here.

My ex cycled into hypomania every 3 weeks. He was always worse at special occassions and events. His hypomania was agressive and angry and sexual and mean mouthed. Nice hey? He wanted to have sex 5 x a day after calling me a bitch or lecturing me for 2 hours about some imagined slight. His lows were quite neutral. I mean, he did not say he would give up on life. He would start to complain about stuff .. so, it was not always easy to say if he was manic or depressed imo. Even the pdoc said that he had a strange form of bp because he would not really get too depressed .. But anyway .. every 3 weeks all year round. But that is not to say that we had weeks of nice guy. We had not much nice guy, because his 3 week cycles lasted at least 4 days. That took some time to get over, and actually by the time I was starting to calm down, he was back in the manic crap. He was on meds for 1 year, but it made very little difference because he needed to be on higher doses and would not cooperate with that.

rch, that looks like a PMS cycle of a teenager. Weird.

In the beginning, He cycled with the seasons. After the accident, it is every few days, sometimes hrs. He can, and will trigger himself at will. Mid sentence and roll with that anger enegry till he runs outa fuel . The length depends on just how much fuel he generated with the trigger. Seasons still have a huge impact, and they amplify the behaviors , emotions and impact.

I hate the lectures too.

yeah, and I if I dared walkk away from a lecture??? omg

sorry ..posting while at work

OMG or DARED to disagree and show fact against their position....

BANG ! Out the door in a blast of rage, in the truck speeding down the drive.

or in some cases, driving into the house.

And his reason for this is I disagreed with him.

He feels his actions were justifiable.

The NOrmal between the up and down...got less and less until there was no normal at all. It was all delusion .