Well we finally had a talk again. Came up this time because she realized I wasn't kean on the idea of co-signing for her buying a truck.
long story short, she is now aware (again) that I know when she gambles. She knows her tricks (using different bank machines) to hide it doesn't work.
I told her about all the lies she has given me, and how it ruins my day, almost every day. financial issues gambling etc... talked about most of it.
she broke down and asked me if I know why she is like this lately (lately meaning the last few years), and I said I think i know. i siad i think she is manic always, and to my suprise she agreed.
during that night she broke into tears a few times about how she hates being out of control.
she said things like just wanting to get in the car and keep driving, to get away from the kids, from me from whatever.
she sayd she understands that is terrible, but cant control it, and literally couldnt hold back the tears exlaining ithiss to me.
at any rate, i tried very hard to explain to her nicel and calmly that because of the gambling problem I need and will be cutting/splitting the finances to protect us.
after we had talked about her being manic (shes been off meds for over 1.5 yrs) she said she'd go see the doc
I also expressed to her that I would like to be involved in this with her as this disease effects all of us.
she ahs apt today with family dctr who I assume will refer her to a phsychiatrist.
just a note to add, soemthign that did come up is confirmation that her mother is aware of the gambling and enabling.
she will lend her money when she goes broke at the casino to buy the food she was suppsed to buy, and tell her "make sure he cant find out"
